DD is 4 next week, and has been very good at taking herself to the toilet for the past year. This week she has suddenly started having what she is calling little accidents, but what to me seem like a much more calculated neglect in going to the toilet. We have a very busy household atm, builders in (generally about 6-10 men working on an extension and stable yard, and I have a girl helping with the horses as I broke my leg last month. We also had a nanny start last week, a woman who is well known to my daughter in a different setting and who she has been very excited to have coming to look after her.
What is happening is that she is weeing and pooing in her pants, but while she does it she says 'Oh, I am having a little accident!' and when asked why she didn't go to the toilet she says she couldn't get there in time. When she is asked to go to the loo 'just in case' she says she doesn't need to go, but can still have an accident as little as 10 minutes later.
Tonight we were reading a book about a monkey together. She likes monkeys and often says she is a monkey. She asked where monkeys poo, and I said they have a special monkey toilet behind a tree, but that it is only for monkeys and that little girls should always go to the toilet. She looked straight into my eyes and said, 'Oh, another little accident,' and pooed on the chair. She was already wearing no knickers because only 5 minutes beforehand she had weed on the floor and with a broken leg I am knackered hopping round after her and her brother, and OH was due in in 5 minutes. He walked in just in time to catch her pooing on the chair.
I am completely puzzled as to why she is doing this. The nanny is someone who has cared for her in another place for the last year and a half, the builders have been here since March, and I broke my leg over a month ago. So there have been no real bombshells in the last couple of days that would upset her, although I realise that the things I have mentioned could have been used as an excuse.
How do I deal with these accidents, in a way that means we can just get back to where we were with her going to the toilet normally? I feel very cross with her, like she should know better, and also it is a real challenge dealing with a nearly 4yo sitting in pooey pants when you have a broken leg and are also trying to manage a 11 mo baby!
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Backinthebox · 28/07/2011 21:29
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