I am a fully paid up member of the "support group for parents of 3yr olds thread, so I know that some amount of nonsense is to be expected! I can cope with the tantrums, the whinging, the why why why, the tears because I cut her toast the wrong way etc!
But I am struggling with the way DD can act towards other children - her first reaction is NEVER to smile, say hello etc. If she is at the swings for example, and another child comes to use the same piece of equipment as her, she will tell them to go away, shout, stomp etc. She can be horrible to friends who come to visit, "X can NOT use my train set" etc, and in particular struggles in groups of 3 or more children, always wanting to divide and conquer, saying things like "let's hide from X" and so on.
It really breaks my heart as I know she can be a lovely lovely girl, she is bright and articulate,and can be a joy on other occasions. I don't want her becoming the child no-one wants to play with. I always intervene if I see her being nasty to others, take her away, make her apologise etc, but it is constant,I can never relax when she is playing with friends as I'm always worried she'll be awful to them. I see other children being friendly and open and if they approach her they quite often get a mouthful .
I think I model good behaviour, manners etc, try to always be kind to her and cheerful, but she just seems so grumpy and unkind. I don't want to tolerate this behaviour, although am aware of the irony of growling "be nice, don't be grumpy" etc!
Is there a better way to handle this?!
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3.5 year old becoming REALLY unpleasant and unkind and I don't know how to deal with it, can anyone advise?
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Caz10 · 28/07/2011 21:21
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