My daughter can't cope with me telling her what to do/telling her off at all. Even talking to her gently gets a furious reaction. There have been quite afew incidences of this for various reasons but i shall give you an example:
Previously she has always been really sensible and very aware round roads, but just this last week she has started to be a bit silly, she has started to bolt in car parks. I spoke to her last week when she ran straight out of the shopping centre in town into a coach layby right by a really really fast main road. Thankfully no one had been pulling in but drivers use it as a place to pick up passengers and I have seen them pull in very quickly. I cant move that fast at mo as I'm pregnant so if she gets away from me she can move a lot faster than i can.
Today she decides to balance on the edge of a curb waving one leg about on a really narrow but again quite busy road. I got down on her level, took her arm to get her attention and said, "This is a road, i need you to step back and be careful"
I stress that I said this, i didn't raise my voice and I didn't grab her arm or even move very fast, there's no way I could have hurt her or frightened her, I just used gentle but firm voice. She went bonkers, shouting at me angrily "i'm not talking to you, I'm not even going to look at you" and continued to stamp her feet fold her arms and strop about. The reaction was totally out of context with what had happened and I am seeing a lot of this at the moment. Asking her to come for her dinner will get the same reaction (and I give 5 minute warnings and all that stuff your supposed to do) Basically asking her or telling her to do anything gets the same reaction.
She doesn't do it so much for her dad or her gran. Gran looks after her 2 days a week at mo, and has been for the last month.
is this her age? is it something I should just use the mantra for "this too shall pass" can anyone suggest anything different i could be doing? She is not phased by reward charts, time -outs just cause more furious tempers and days of worse behaviour. I am thinking about withdrawing favourite toys/telly priveledges if this continues.
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DD , 4 next month, hyper bloody sensitive to any telling off, finding the right method of discipline is proving hard
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fishandlilacs · 23/07/2011 15:09
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