We are really struggling with our almost two year old every day at tea time (sorry - this is going to be long....) He just doesn't want to eat and is obviously hungry as he's not eaten since his lunc at 12. He has a nap/rest from about 2.30-4ish. I start trying to give him his tea about 5.30, the tantrums can go on until almost 7pm. We are getting pretty fed up of this every evening and would appreciate any advice, I think we must be doing something wrong but not sure what.
The first problem is he's really fussy - survives on cheerios, cheese, bread, jam, bananas, strawberries, yogurt, cucumber, boiled egg yolk, carrots, sardines on toast, cereal bars and the occasional bit of pasta or ham. I'm very grateful that he'll eat fruit and veg but the rest of it is very limiting. I always try to give him a bit of whatever we're having but he is 95% likely to refuse it. By the time his dad gets home, the tantrums have started...
Obviously he doesn't want to eat what I've made so I make a back up of something he likes. He is then awkward about most of the following every evening: sitting at the table, sitting in a particular chair (keeps wanting me to swop - not allowed), wants to mess with his drink and have other cups to pour it in and out of (not allowed), wanting to eat off our plates or drink from our drinks (not allowed either), asking for food then not eating it when I get it for him, wanting to get down from his highchair even though he's eaten nothing, trying to get us out of our seats even though we are eating our tea.
One of the triggers seems to be when his dad arrives home from work about 6. He gets very excited and in combination with being hungry, this leads to more tantrums. If he has got down from his highchair by this point, he always goes and pesters his dad when he's eating his tea by trying to pull him up from his chair. I have explained that he should either sit nicely and eats his tea with daddy or he has to go in the other room. We have started putting him in the lounge if he doesn't leave his dad alone but I'm not sure if this is working. We have had limited success with him eating sitting on his dad's knee, but I don't want to do this every night.
We'd really like to have our tea together at the table but it just doesn't seem possible at the moment. He sounds like a nightmare reading all this, but he's not too bad the rest of the time, apart from the odd tantrum. We don't have much problem with breakfast or lunch.
Any advice appreciated!
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marylou242 · 20/07/2011 14:34
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