She?s currently staying for a couple of weeks as she came down for my 3 year old?s birthday, which was on Sunday. Over the past couple of days she?s been telling me that she doesn?t like her nana (often in front of her) and just generally not being very nice to her at all (ignoring her and telling me that she doesn?t want to be with her, for example). On top of this she is now telling me that she loves her dad and 2 cousins but not me, her nana or grandpa (on either side) or anyone else for that matter, with a bit of talking to she does say she loves me but nobody else. She's offering all this information completely out of the blue.
This all since she came back from her dad?s on Monday morning. It is making me so upset that she is being so awful to my mum, who spends half her life buying clothes, putting money in her trust fund and generally loving her (of course I don?t expect a 3 year old to appreciate that, just trying to explain why I feel so upset).
A bit of history, her dad and I split up in February and she stays with him (who lives with his family; parents, brother, sis-in-law and their kids ? her cousins) every other week, I absolutely don?t begrudge him/her the time she spends over there and I know for a fact that she has a blast, not surprising considering that the place is full of other kids ? so I completely understand that she has tonnes of fun over there, and it is all routine (you know the boring stuff like nursery and doctors appointments) when she is at home with me ? I think that is par of the course when you split up. I just don?t understand why she has suddenly become so anti my mum (they?ve spent loads of time together in the past and never had any problems).
I've tried talking to her abut how much her nana loves her and asking her why she doesn't like her (she just mumbles), I'/ve tried being firm with her and telling her she's not being nice and is making her nana sad. Not quite sure what to do.
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I’m so sad for my mum
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cuppateaandajammiedodger · 20/07/2011 11:48
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