My ds is almost 4 and recently has started shoving, pushing, kicking his younger sister (16 months). It's not very hard but enough to cause her to lose her balance, sometimes to cry. He's not secretive about it but does it in view of us.
When we see it, he gets reprimanded, sent to sit on the step, asked to apologise. Often he refuses to say sorry. He often ends up having a screaming fit which can go on for 40 minutes.Cue me getting cross with him, him going to bed without a story. This often happens at the end of the day probably because he's tired.
There are obviously some elements of jealousy here. I have been trying ignoring him recently so when he does it, send him to sit on the step and telling him I won't speak to him until he apologises. This has had limited success.
I don't feel like any technique we use is effective. He doesn't do this with any other children or at nursery. I have had problems with a friend's older child doing this to my children but we have been avoiding them so he hasn't experienced this recently. Help.
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Managing older child pushing/shoving younger sibling
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MillyMollyMardy · 17/07/2011 15:35
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