DS is 5. I literally feel he has whinged for 4 years. I've reached my limit. I've actually watched lately where friends have stopped playing with him for it - he can't seem to handle any situation without 'melting' and whinging, and often it's very loud and very vocal where everyone's eyes will turn on him.
I've tried absolutely everything over the years and nothing makes the slightest bit of difference. He can bring down the whole family because he will whinge constantly. At the moment we are doing 'zero-tolerance' on it - no warnings, straight in to time out. If he whinges on the way there it's double time. It works for the immediate sense but 10/20 minutes later it'll be something else. Nothing seems to get through to him long-term that the whinging needs to stop. He can't/won't hear you when he's in that state - he literally blocks out anything by his own noise. And the most ridiculously tiny things trigger it, but because he can't hear you in that state you can't explain. And after time out and I try to explain he says "yes mummy, I'm sorry for whinging mummy, I'm too old to whinge now"... and then 10 minutes later...
I'm actually despairing now. I feel embaressed by it in a child his age (whereas I didn't when he was younger) - he's also incredibly tall for his age (looks about 8), and I really worry for him socially if this continues. Has anyone managed to deal with a whinger? Or share some strategies of what's worked for you in how to deal with it?
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Whinging driving me nuts - has anyone successfully got it under control? How?!
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theotherboleyngirl · 04/07/2011 07:09
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