because my DS has dropped out of preschool. He simply refuses to go, has done so now for weeks. I have been in constant contact with his key worker but she has only just broken the news to the head. Today I was hauled before her and required to account for myself.
As if it was my choice! On the one hand his kw insists I do not force him, on the other hand the head insists he attend again from next week. I nodded obediently, said I would try, knowing full well the only way I will get him there again is by using brute force. Bribes do not work. It is a good preschool and he was fine there for two terms, but now he really really does not want to go.
Headmistress says: a) I've relinquished control to DS, letting him decide whether or not to go b) I'm setting up a dangerous precedent for school c) & if you think I'm being hard on you, just wait and see how they react to absences in school proper. All mixed up with suitable "Oh I know it's hard" and "We're on your side, really" and "Thank you SO much for coming to see us," but still no disguising the giste of her message.
Worth pointing out that she doesn't know my child as individual. Key worker does, of course.
But kw, partly maybe because of prolonged absence of her own through illness, has not managed to connect to DS. He didn't talk to her or anyone, much, even when he was quite happy to go. He made no friends - that for sure would make all the difference.
He has, on the other hand, become passionately attached to two girls in our street aged 7 & 8, completely off own bat. He forms similar passionate attachments in playgrounds. I know he wants to make friends.
I have a sense here that I may have let him down - I've never managed to do playdates & am not part of any mothers' circle (being very shy, very old, very middle-class but very poor, I suppose). I don't mind for myself - there's always mumsnet! - but am sorry for the way inevitably it impacts on DS.
Now I'm caught in one of those parenting binds when instinct fails & you know there is any amount of conflicting advice out there. What do you do if your child hates/refuses school - at any age? Say "Tough. It's the law" or immediately consider home schooling? (Or private school, if you can afford it.) Any thoughts/experiences gratefully received.
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Been ticked off by headmistress
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marytuda · 24/06/2011 21:40
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