Does anyone know if this is 'normal' -ish behaviour for a 4 yr old DS. Does anyone elses' children behave like this? Or is it only my DS who is so naughty.
For a while now DS has become really difficult to deal with, he's always been very strong minded but lately it's really awful. He says 'no' to everything, or 'no I won't do that', about for example dinner time, or teeth brushing or getting dressed or everything really.
He whinges and moans alot, really alot. He hates being told off by anyone, particularly people not part of the family and he will shout at adults in a rage, 'Shut up stupid', or something like that. This is of concern to me as he will start school in September and I am dread that he will scream and shout at the teacher.
He deliberately ruined our wedding ceremony by singing at the top of his voice throughout, talking and had a huge tantrum before hand about putting his clothes on. He had been due to carry the ring (in our dreams!) and give it to dad, but when we told him about it, trying to prepare him a couple of days before he said, 'I won't do it I will run away from the room' (The ceremony room). He knew he was meant to sit quietly but decided to disrupt it.
Then today, nursery is having photos taken and they all had these little graduation gowns (a they are going to school in September). Somehow I kew he would be th eonly one refusing to have photo taken. And I was right the nursery called and asked me to come. I arrived, every other child was compliant, quite happy to join in and have photos taken but not my DS. He made tantrums, flung himself on the floor, wailing, crying, trying to tear off the gown. He almost did have photo taken but then fell to the floor. I left nursery with him till he calmed down. These are just the incidence that spring to mind, but there are dozens more.
I don't meet other mums and their children as I worry about his behaviour. I am quite often embarrassed by his behaviour. I ask myself what did we do wrong, why is he like this? I can't understand it. Nursery have contact with a behaviour specialist and I asked if they could refer him so that I can speak to her. I really hope I can get some help, because I am worried about school. Also it's making our lives a bit miserable, and DH and I argue quite a bit about how to deal with it. Tell me I'm not the only one!
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JoniRules · 20/06/2011 14:24
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