Hi, not sure if this is the right forum to post this, but it's about behaviour so I hope so!
My stepdaughter is 12 and lives with her mum. There have been, and still are problems with her mum's drinking. However, that aside, my husband received a text from her mum last week asking him if he would speak to their daughter about her behaviour at home as apparently she's been very rude to her mum lately, including shoving her over. Now, clearly we were thinking this could be due to a multitude of things .. rebellion, particularly as mum has drinking problems, teenage angst to name but a few. Usually she is a very placid, good natured girl, and we never, ever see any behaviour like this from her. We have never even had a cross word with her and have never seen her in a mood when she's with us.
So, last night we sat her down for a chat, and it appears that the main problem is that she resents her mum's new boyfriend, who after seeing her mum for a couple of months, has moved in. She said she's jealous of him because her mum no longer makes time for her. We discussed with her that it's only natural her mum wants a fella, and that she should give it time. But, we have learnt today that she is actively rude to this chap, puts him down all the time at home and calls him stupid. He is, according to my SD's nan, a very nice chap, the best boyfriend mum has had for a long while (all previous boyfriends have beaten mum up, in front of SD). This man is apparently trying very hard to make an effort with SD, but to no avail.
Any ideas, advice welcome! We don't think we'll be able to do much, as what goes on in their household is for mum to deal with in all honesty, but we do think that there's possibly more going on than she's letting on because this behaviour is very out of character and she's not behaved like this with mum's previous boyfriends, even before they started being violent. You would think she would be happy for mum as she's found a decent chap, but it appears not.
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NikNox41 · 19/06/2011 20:13
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