Does anyone have any advise or had the same experience?
My DD (2.5) has always been a bit spirited but over the last few weeks she has become a nightmare and both my DH and I are exhausted and don't know what do do next. Our usual daily experience is as follows:
- When DD comes back from Nursery she runs into the house and then straight onto the sofa where she starts 'crying' and being generally crabby. We spend the time before bed with her getting most of her toys out and then refusing to tidy up any of them before bed. I've tried the principle of 'one toy away before we get out another' and trying turn it into a game 'come on, lets see who can put the shapes/coins back in the box the quickest'. She says 'no' and runs off or 'smiles' at me with that ' I know you want me to do this but I'm not going to' look.
- When it's bed time she starts being crabby again and takes AGES to climb the stairs. We then try teeth brushing. It used to be ok as she has a choice of toothbrushes, can brush dolly's teeth and I let her rinse her toothbrush under the tap. Lately though I give her her toothbrush and she brushes the front teeth for 2 seconds then throw the toothbrush on the floor. I pick it up, rinse it and give it back to her and say ' you need to brush them a bit more, do you want Mummy to do it?', she says 'no', takes the brush and throws it on the floor again. I say 'I need you to brush your teeth or Mummy will have to do it'. One more throwing and then I take the brush, grab her cardi and do her teeth with her screaming. I feel really awful doing this. Maybe I should just say, ok and leave it but the dentist has said I need to ensure the sides of her teeth are done.
- Bed time used to be great but now she won't get dressed for bed, won't let me take her nappy off/put on nappy (even when she has chosen her favourite nappy picture). She won't get into her gro-bag. I read her a story in bed and she asks for another. I have given in a few times :( but lately I've said 'mummy has to go down stairs now'. We have a cuddle and I leave. she then starts up screaming and getting out of bed and standing by the stairgate across her bedroom door. I go up 10 mins later, lift her up and put her in the bed and leave, 10 mins later, same again.....still screaming, point of being sick....I go up and give her a cuddle, she immediately relaxes and I put her in her bed and she goes to sleep.
I'm taking all of this personally and feel I'm a rubbish Mum as I can't 'do it right'. My DH and I try to be consistent but isn't there a better way than saying 'no', withholding priveleges, and physical force? Surely I can't let the toothbrushing go unnoticed and surely I can't just let her make a mess without tidying up at least 1 thing?
Thanks