Lost control :-(

[yummymummy84]

My DD is 5yrs old and although good as gold at school behaves horribly at home! She doesn't listen at all and will always say no or cry and moan if asked to do something. Yesterday was constant crying and whining and I snapped! I never raised my hand to her but really shouted and threatened to phone social services (yes I know awful). I am now feeling very guilty and a failure as a mum. Am I alone in this or do some of you have a meltdown moment. What do I do to stop the constant moaning and crying for no apparent reason? Help!!!

[Flojo1979]

I'm surprised u havent done it b4, if u get to DD being 5 without 'snapping' then thats amazing! My DD is 2 and i often have moments where i need to take a deep breath and count! My DS is 6 and i often find myself getting embroiled in conversations in the heat of the moment that i later regret. Usually mine r, DS says 'dad lets me do this/that' etc or 'dads great' etc and i reply to the words of 'go live with him then' (we r divorced).
U r not a failure, but beware of the slippery slope, shouting has turned into a habit for me now, one that i'm trying desperately to break!
As for stopping the moaning or crying for no apparent reason, I'd just ignore and walk away, send to room for time out etc.

[yummymummy84]

Thanks flojo may just try that! And not quite got to 5 without doing it have had many minor snaps before!

[sarwith2boys]

im glad it isnt only me feeling like this, i was beginning to think my DS had bin possesed in the night! he was an angel untill about 4 months ago now hes a different boy waking threw the night, tantrums and just general back chat, also will not do anything alone! stuck to my side constantly! he tells me he hates me and doesnt love me constantly! hopefully grow out of it soon before i looe the plot! :)

[girliefriend]

Im wondering if 5 is moaney age, my 5yo dd seems to moan A LOT at the moment and I snapped at her tonight!!!

I went with her on a school trip last thursday, thought it would be lovely to spend some quality time with her and she moaned the entire day - I was really fed up!!!

[sarwith2boys]

i think its a moany age DS moans about everything! even taking his plate out or clothes in the basket! then when hes done it tells me im horrible and nasty and i should do it myself, it must be a 5 year old thing as i have seen a few posts on here about this age!

[Starxx]

I get this at home all the time and I know he is the same at school too lol.

I do my best to literally ignore it ....I wont respond to whiney requests or screaming at me for something. I completely ignore until he has calmed down and he can ask me nicely and I can understand what he is talking about.

Its not easy and you're not alone. Its hard to ignore but he does settle after a few minutes.