There is no need for a 1 year old to have any food during the night at all, providing they are having 3 full meals a day, of all food groups (protein at lunchtime, and carbs at breakfast and dinner mainly). Try making his evening meal at 5.30, and make it carb heavy - he should go through from 7-7.
I agree with previous posters - give last milk feed at 1830, then a story so awake when in cot when you leave.
Try reading some Gina Ford - love her or hate her, the woman talks so much sense it's untrue.
My 10.5 month old DS also his tea at 5pm, then wind down, bath at 6pm, then stories and milk at 7pm (we feed downstairs then carry him up, he's always half-awake) - he then goes through (usually) until 5am, and has his morning milk at 6am.
DP felt the same as you, that DS wouldn't be able to go that long without a feed, but I put my foot down at 9 months and weaned him off over a week. DS hasn't cared a jot about it!
Maybe try weaning slowly and see how you go?
My motivation was that I did not want to making jam sarnies for a 2 year old at four in the morning!
Gave DS a milk feed at 6:30pm last night, after his bath. However, he fell asleep at the breast, so he was put in his cot asleep. He then woke at 3am and after DS was unable to get back to sleep for half an hour, I breastfed him.
So my attempt at a new routine didn't work, so I'll need to rethink it again...or keep giving DS a dream feed at 11pm...
why not try gradually cutting down the dreamfeed rather than cutting it out all at once. I gave up on the dreamfeed with my los so I could go to bed earlier - I then just fed them if they woke in the night.
Don't give up! I was the same - BF at 3am for what seemed like ages, I just kept pushing it bit by bit (3.05, 3.10 etc), until he stopped waking up. It took a while, a few weeks, I think, but it did work!
Going from 6.30pm - 3am for the first time is brilliant! Set yourself a time for when you are happy to feed him (3.30am, or whatever), and just keep at it.
Rita's is a great idea, too, in fact, Rita's advice is generally fab - she's given some great advice on BF and feeding!
Keep posting, and hang on in there. Weaning off the night feed is sooooo hard. xx
Day 1: Breastfed DS after giving him a wash and getting him into his sleepsuit. DS fell asleep at the breast, so he was put in his cot asleep. He then needed a further feed at 3:30am.
Day 2: Breastfed DS @ 6:15pm, then let him have a bit of a play before his bath. DS didn't fall asleep at the breast and didn't need a night feed!!! DS woke at 6:45am, when I gave him his morning feed.
Day 3: Same as Day 2, but needed feeding again at 3:30am.
Day 4: Same as Day 2 - no night time feed! Wahoo!
I feel I'm getting somewhere and I now know that DS can last 12 hours without a feed.