My dd, who's 4 and a bit, has never been a placid child, but just in the last few weeks the outbursts have been accompanied by dreadful teenage-like expressions, e.g. 'I'm fed up with you, go away!', 'Leave me alone!', 'I hate you!' And she says them with a real scowl on her face.
I'm a bit shocked and upset by it. If it's this bad at 4, what will she be like at 14?! Or is this just par for the course? I was really hoping her somewhat trying 3-year-old self would have settled down by now, but it seems the opposite is happening. And what should I do when she does this? Should I just ignore? If I say something like 'That's not a nice way to talk to mummy', she just carries on.
Watching with interest... DD turned 4 last month and has started answering back, arguing and being generally cheeky. Today she told me "I've had enough of you" (clearly things I've said to her sometimes )
Don't panic - I had similar with both my sons, but at 6. I remember thinking just that. Ignore as best you can - she's testing you and trying to get a rise out of you. It lasted a few months in my case and then they went back to normal
Sounds like my first daughter...the only thing that worked for us was a calm "you mustn't speak to me/anybody like that" and then walk out of the room/ turn away/disengage and ignore until she speaks to you in a reasonable/respectful way. Like all things it will pass...and then there'll be something else to worry about!!..perhaps if you win the battle here you'll miss some of the teenage stuff ( that's what I keep telling myself anyway!
oh my god i don´t know about girls but my ds is showing signs of this too and he HAS always been a placid and very pleasant child. scary. I mostly ignore if its general moaning but we´re cracking down on him being rude/cheeky before it gets out of hand. We give him 2 warnings (clearly repeated) then a small sanction (no cartoon x before bed, he gets 2 cartoons so he still has another to watch/lose) this is enough for him at the moment.
Don't have any advice to give though as have not found a way to deal with it yet. Think it's quite normal, something to do with testing the boundaries; at least I hope it's quite normal otherwise we're in trouble in 10 years time....
Oh yes - with eye rolling, "you're so stupid" stuff. I ignore a lot and tell her when she is not being polite. Generally dd is much better now at 7. She asks lots of questions so there more opportunity for "bonding" and girly chats. The strops, when they come, are no better though....