My children looks older than they are by a few years and they are expected to behave accordingly. Which is ridiculous for DD2 at 16 months as she is expected to talk and be more coordinated (like a 2.5 yo).
I am not sure what I am asking really, but this week end something made me tick as DD1 did a passport game.
She got told off for not knowing that New Delhi was the capital of India. She is 6 and thought that knowing where to place pakistan and sweden and recognised the bulgarian, canadian, german, french, romanian, italian and US flags was really good. She is the size of a 8/9 yo but as not started formal schooling yet (not in the UK).
When she was a toddler she wasn't "allowed" to have tantrums or be in the pushchair because she was so big. I have constant demand that I do not carry DD2 (16 months) in the carrier because she is lazy . Or what is wrong with her she doesn't speak...
I am afraid that when they do something good it is not recognised because most children their sizes do it already. It is often dismissed by mother of the same age children "yes, she can do that but she is much older than you".
Then I am also worried of a lot of inappropriate comments will come later on. (I was called slut and asked to do sexual things in the street when I was 12 and didn't really understand what was going on, looked 17, dressed like a 12 but you can't hide your body or your size)
How do I prepare them for it all? How do I make them feel special when they do something good? How do I explain that it is unfair but I can't put on a sticker with their age on their forehead?
It is not that bad, I know, I got out of there, but they could be more prepared than I was, and recognised a bit more so they don't lack confidence (as I did).
Any advices?
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children looking much older than they are. How do you help them with the unfairness of it all?
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LeMousquetaireAnonyme · 25/05/2011 18:45
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