for him. And me. I know it shouldn't be All About Me but this is really getting to me and I'm becoming depressed about it, because very little I do seems to make any improvement
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DS2 is 20 weeks old and has never been all that cheery. I think he had a bit of reflux early on and certainly a lot of tummy pain - he used to fart for Britain and double up screaming - and couldn't be laid down after a feed because of acid (I assume). Now he's older, he seems to have got past the reflux stage but he is still so grumpy. He has his smiley moments, but is mostly characterised by grumpily screaming at the drop of a hat. He even grumbles and moans when he's on the breast, sometimes!
Now, I know he's tiny still and that he needs constant reassurance and contact - but he gets it! We have co-slept since night one, he is carried around in a selection of slings (has been in the buggy three times and is not best pleased with it), he's breastfed on demand. I just don't know what else I'm meant to be doing.
Is he bored?? He can't sit unaided yet and reacts unpredictably to being propped up in front of me, ditto being put on his tummy, though sometimes he likes that. He's been at his happiest the last few days laid on a rug in the shade, gurgling at the trees outside, but that doesn't always work to make him happy either. The other thing that he loves is to have the adoring face of either parent hung over him the entire time he's awake, talking animatedly and making him giggle, but if I did that the whole time, DS1 and I would both starve! The very instant you take your face away from DS2, he roars. He is more or less unputdownable.
He's been dribbling since he was 2 months and though teeth aren't at all evident, I presume they're on the move, so maybe he's just a miserable teether? At 4 months? I also think his tummy still troubles him, but how on earth do I know?? He's not a great breastfeeder either - has always been very finicky about having his boob held at exactly the right angle for him, and he loses focus easily and comes off several times a feed. At the moment, he's feeding for a few minutes and then coming off and roaring in anger/pain. Could be sore gums, could be tummy, could be let-down not fast/slow enough - I just don't know.
DS1 was entirely different (a breeze, compared) and I know I'm just going to have to stop comparing them because it's not fair to DS2 - he is his own man and clearly has a different attitude to life!
Did anyone else have a mostly grumpy little so and so baby in the early months, with no apparent cause, who cheered up? I just don't know what to do to improve things.
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Why is my 4 mo baby so bloody miserable??
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ReshapeWhileDamp · 01/05/2011 17:37
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