My 3.4 year old just doesn't want anything to do with me, and it is really getting to me. He wants his dad to do everything and will say he doesn't want me to come on trips or to help me. He actually says "mummy can't come". I don't really know what to do in this situation, he will cry and make a fuss if I try to help him, so we are kind of going with it and letting his dad do a lot with him, but then I spend all my time with my other child. I don't want this. I want to spend time with him too. It is so hurtful.
He has always been a spirited child, and I have found my relationship with him much harder and more complex than with me other child. I just don't know where I have gone wrong. He sometimes seems really mean - not just to me but to other children - saying he "hates" them or trying to do stuff that he knows will upset them - ruining their games. I must add he is not like this all the time, and has some really nice relationships esp with his sibling and some slightly older children.
He can be such a well behaved loving child, but he can also do things that he will know cause upset (like throwing my clean washing on the floor or throwing his cup). I just don't "get" him.
Please help if you can??
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He just doesn't want me and finding him difficult
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clare40 · 27/12/2010 19:23
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