What to call this thread- advice please

[tiger66]

I am having a bad day. Why is it that other people seem to be so unkind.

My little boy 3 and a half came home from nursery today for the 3rd time in 2 weeks to say that other boys had been hitting him! Today was the icing on the cake. I have talked to him about how he should ask them to stop and if they don't stop you tell a teacher.

Well today he asked this little boy to stop and the little boy carried on even harder! To top it off when I picked him up the teacher said to me that there had been an incident and that my little one had got upset because she had had to raise her voice at two boys who were mis behaving. What she failed to tell me was that she had to tell them off for hitting my little boy.

He is such a sensitive little boy and such a caring and lovely little boy but I cannot understand why he keeps being hit. I keep wandering if I have done something to make him such an easy victim and feel now that I have encouraged him to be kind and considerate but not how to deal with bullying. I didn't realise at 3 that I would have to be dealing with this at such a young age.

Any advice would be much appreciated. To top it off a little friend of his ( a girl) has told her mum that she only likes playing with girls and doesn't want to play with my ds anymore. It seems he is stuck between a rock and a hard place. A lot of the boys seem very rough and the girls he liked playing with now decide they don't like playing with boys!

Starting to think I should have made him a bit tougher! How is the question!

[whomovedmychocolate]

Nah it's a stage. By all means encourage his confidence. But don't make a big deal about it. Why don't you invite one of the other boys back for a playdate and invite their mum along and ask for advice. She can then encourage them to play together and it'll help him develop a friendship and teach him the skills of making friends.