my 5.8yr old DDs behaviour is terrible :(

[DarciesmumandTTC2]

I'm at my wits end with my DD, she has just had a major explosive tantrum over dinner and punched and scratched DH in anger over not getting what she wants :(

Now I know to some extent this is my fault, although not spoilt with material items, generally shes mainly got her way, we've started to put our foot down a little more and shes exploded with anger and frustration and its really getting me down.

She is so good in school too. we've tried to enroll some of the school rules at home too like 'be told once' and in the event she does well we write to the school mascot and tell him how good shes been - which worked for a while but thats hard now.

I just don't know what to do shes always yelling that we never listen to her, but we do, we try and let her finish saying/screaming by putting her in another room to calm down and then try talking but she continually interupts and gets herself more worked up to the point she makes herself sick. I'm exhausted by it all.

Her behaviour was brilliant upto the point she started school :(

Any Suggestions and i'd be grateful.

thanks

[DarciesmumandTTC2]

bump pls

[TheBigZing]

It does sound like she's used to getting her own way.

You need to set some firm boundaries. Your house is not school, so 'trying' to use school rules won't necessarily work at home. Decide on some simple house rules and stick to them. Every time. You and your dh need to apply the same rules firmly, calmly and consistently.

To praise her when she gets it right, have you tried a sticker reward chart or a pasta jar reward system? Writing to the school mascot every time she's good sounds exhausting.

Good luck!

[DarciesmumandTTC2]

She has a sticker chart and she knows what she has to do but its just not getting filled right now and the thing is she'll be completely honest with you and say shes being naughty and doesn't care :(

School Mascot thing - I write once a month if shes good (collects things up iykwim) then she gets a badge in school for being well behave.

Simple house rules, the only rule we have and stick to is if she starts screaming then she gets a warning to stop if she doesn't do so then goes into another room until shes calmed down so we can have a talk. What others are there?

Thanks for replying

[CarGirl]

Home rules:

No hurting other people

No calling other people names

Do as you are told!

[DarciesmumandTTC2]

Thanks CarGirl

Shes only like this at home, not when we are out together, or at school.

[CharlieBoo]

My ds is 5.8 too and we went through this in the summer holidays...hard work, argumentative, needed his own way all the time, cheeky, lots of back chat.

He seems ok now, back to normal but it lasted a good 6-8 weeks and drove us CRAZY! We just kept firm with him and he went straight in his room if he even looked at me the wrong way . Sometimes they need to know you mean business and thats tough but being hard on them works...well it did for us, for the time being!

I found with ds, the minute I could see the mood over him change I nipped it in the bud and gave him a warning and made it clear if his mood/behaviour continued he would be spending time out in his room.

Good luck..

[DarciesmumandTTC2]

Thanks Charlieboo, DD is very cheeky and gives lots of backchat. As I say DD does get a warning and goes into another room, just exhausting tho, so hope its just a phase that goes very quickly.