My step daughter lives in another country with her Mum....she's 13 and without going into too many details we ad no idea she exhisted until three years ago when her Mum "came clean" and left her husband...stating that her husbands daugghter was not his but that of an olf fling...my DHs! We did paternity tests...and she is his.
He has met her...travelling across the world twice to do so...and has kept up strong telephone contact and email...sends money every month and regular parcels of British clothes which the little girl loves.
It's fine except for the Mothers idea of whats ok....when my hsband skypes her, he talks with her alone as I will always try to give them space, but his daughter often wants to see my 2 girls who are 6 and 2... step daughters Mum is usually in the background too. Stepdaughter swears habitually...not the worst words but it doesn't sound nice...and DH has said a few times "Oh, its best if you don't use those words or the little one wll be doing it at paygroup!" he does it light heartedly and no offence is taken apparently...her Mum never says a word....now my step daughter has got her ownSkype account and uses messenger too...and her user name is not appropriate...I can't say it here...bt lets just say it's something like "Sexy Sue"
Her profile pic shows half her chest and it's weird! The kid is thirteen ffs and I feel worried aboout it all.
We will be meeting her ourselves in the new year...going over there etc. and I cannot help but feel anxious about it...DH is also disturbed but does not feel he can say anything at all...
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Is this just wrong or am I really old fashioined?
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MumblingClothDoll · 07/11/2010 09:03
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