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I want dd2 to have my Nans name as her middle name..

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laurawantsababy Sat 17-Oct-09 21:10:50

Buy dp hates the idea and the name!

My Nan died in January and dd2 is due this January. I always said if I have another girl I want her to have my Nans name as her middle name. I miss my Nan so much and it would make me so happy to use her name.

It is an old name and certainly not in the the top 100 names smile but it means something to me.

Dp chose dd1s name which I have never liked.

What would you do?? I think I will regret it if I let him win. Thanks.

GreenMonkies Sat 17-Oct-09 21:14:28

Both my girls have "family" names as their middle names. DD1 has my mums name as her middle name and DD2 has a version of DP's mums name as her middle name.

Can't you use it as her first name?? I mean, if DP chose DD1's name and it's not one you really like then surely it's ok for DD2 to have a name that makes you really happy? (personally I wouldn't agree to name either of mine unless I was happy with the names, DP thought of both girls first names, but I like the names too, or we wouldn't have used them!)

Go for it!

IMoveTheStarsForNoOne Sat 17-Oct-09 21:16:38

Can you compromise and give her two middle names, one of your DP's choosing, and your chosen name?

You do know you now have to share names, don't you?

bronze Sat 17-Oct-09 21:17:09

Did your Gran have a middle name

My Gran died while I was in hospital before having dd. Dh didnt like her first name but her middle name Evelyn which was also her mothers middle name is now also my dds middle name

herbietea Sat 17-Oct-09 21:21:58

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jabberwocky Sat 17-Oct-09 21:25:00

DS1 has dh's dad's name. It's not a name I would have chosen but it meant a lot to dh so I went along with it. Then with ds2 we had a really big argument about a name from MY side of the family as a middle name. It certainly helped my position that I had agreed on ds1.

curlyredhead Sat 17-Oct-09 21:26:36

I have three girls and each of them has a name of one of my/dh grandmothers (one on each side share a name, handily, so I don't have to have any more to complete the set grin ). I think it's lovely for middle names to have family connections.

Go on, tell us the name <<curlyredhead gives winning smile>>

foxinsocks Sat 17-Oct-09 21:29:39

I have both my nans' (mum's mum) and granny (dad's mum) names as middle names

I love them tbh. And it does mean something to me.

laurawantsababy Sat 17-Oct-09 21:36:51

Thanks all. My dp doesnt like the idea because he doesnt like the name.

The name is Vera smile

I have a first name that I love and it would go soooo well with Vera as a middle name!

Dd1 has my mums name as her middle name. Dp doesnt have a middle and doesnt see the point.

bellissima Sun 18-Oct-09 08:43:50

DD1 has my grandmother's name (and great-grandmother's - she had seven daughters and had obviously run out of inspiration when her youngest was born!) as first name.

chocolateorange Sun 18-Oct-09 08:56:17

I gave my dd my nans name for a middle name. It is imo of a similar ilk to Vera, old womany but quite pretty. Anyway, I couldn't have cared less what it was, it was my nan's name and she meant the world to me.

Said dd is now 6 and is so proud of her middle name and the fact that she is called after nanny Ivy. We talk about her alot and much of that comes from dd wanting to know about the woman behind the name iyswim.

Go for it, you'd regret it if you didn't smile

rolledhedgehog Sun 18-Oct-09 09:00:11

My two eldest have family names of relatives that have now passed away and I am so glad I did it even though the names are not that fantastic. It is a link to those that are a part of them that they will not remember.

mumandlovingit Sun 18-Oct-09 09:03:17

ds1 is named after my grandad and has my other grandads name as a middle name, ds2's middle name is dp's fathers name.

next baby will have dp's uncles name as middle name and my nana surname as a middle name or if its a girl my nans name as a middle name alongside my mums and other nans names combined and dps nanas name altered a bit for the first name.

sorry if a bit confusing.

its important to me to keep their memory alive with the new children we have brought into the long as the first name is one you both like, the middle names are rarely used anyway and most children like the fact that they have history to their names.

stick to your guns

laurawantsababy Sun 18-Oct-09 09:03:56

Thanks all. I think my dp is worried that dd2 will get teased for the name.

I really want to go with it and God damn it I will.

Thanks all smile smile smile

ninedragons Sun 18-Oct-09 09:04:27

Are your DC going to have his surname or yours? I think that swings it.

DD has DH's surname so the middle name wasn't up for negotiation - had to come from my family so we had one family name each.

Besom Sun 18-Oct-09 09:07:43

DD has my mum's name (she died a long time ago). It's not a particularly nice name in itself but it means a lot and there was no question of her not having it.

I don't actually remember even discussing it with dh. It was a fait accompli!

Stick to your guns.

diddl Sun 18-Oct-09 14:50:06

OP, did your Nan have a middle name or surname that you could use instead?

I am shock that your son has a name that you don´t like!

I think your husband is odd to not like the idea,tbh.

I don´t have a middle name and I made sure ours do as I hated not having a middle name.

differentWitch Sun 18-Oct-09 15:08:51

Could you change your mind and say you want Verity as a first name instead?

edam Sun 18-Oct-09 15:13:14

I think dh has to give way graciously on this one as he chose a name you dislike for dd1. (Why on earth did you let him get away with that?)

Old lady names such as Ivy are really popular atm, don't see why Vera shouldn't enjoy a renaissance too. And it's only a middle.

Ds has dh's father's name as one of his middles - personally don't like it but seemed fair enough (don't hate it, but I wouldn't have chosen it if left to my own devices).

mathanxiety Sun 18-Oct-09 18:12:42

A middle name will definitely never get teased about unless it's really ridiculous, and Vera is never going to be in that category. Tell your DH it's not about what sort of names, as such, he likes or dislikes, it's about your feelings for your Nan and what the name represents. (And it's also about you getting a say in naming your child as he's had his turn already).

letsblowthistacostand Sun 18-Oct-09 18:13:53

Vera is a gorgeous name. Was desperate to name DD2 after DH nan as DD1 named after my side. DH didn't like the name (too old ladyish he said) and we ended up with his sister's first name as DD2's middle name. Wish we'd stuck with his nan's name but he was dead set against. Oh well, her name is very pretty and no one will ever have trouble spelling it!

laurawantsababy Sun 18-Oct-09 19:31:55

Thanks all.

They have dps surname so I guess I should choose!

Plus the fact that he chose dd1s name that I never liked!

I just have to find a good first name so that he has no choice!

jkklpu Sun 18-Oct-09 19:35:00

Vera's due for a comeback. Tell your dp it means "Faith" in Russian/other Slavonic languages. One of my best friend's daughters is called this after her [friend's] granny who died not that long before the baby was born.

Lovemyshoes Sun 18-Oct-09 19:37:13

I haven't read the other posts. But, I think you should do what feels right for you.

My beloved dad died before meeting dd2, but, I changed his first name into a female sounding name and use it as a middle name, at first I got a few raised eyebrows, but recently found it in a name book (my spelling too) and, I am so so please that I did it.

I also don't see anything wrong with the name vera.

mathanxiety Sun 18-Oct-09 19:42:43

I thought Vera was something to do with Truth (from veritas)?

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