We are about to have this dilemma. DS has my maternal grandmother's maiden name as an extra middle name. It is an unusual but legitimate boy's name. Now we are expecting DC2. Does a boy get 1) the same extra name? 2)My paternal grandmother's maiden name (not so nice but still just usable? 3)just one middle name?
And I have no idea what to do it it's a girl!
In your case, I would probably go for just 1 middle name and give exactly the explanation you have if it ever comes up. It probably will, children seem to have very scrupulous notions of 'fairness'
I'm afraid I agree with the others. But don't get too traumatised by the 'choosing'. Frankly i can't understand why people get so wound up about middle names when they would be hard-pressed to state those of either their friends or their children's friends. Why not use some family names - go on, please Great Auntie Sue/Pamela/Belinda...
I would say yes. Oldest sister has a middle name, middle sister and I do not. Whilst I know that this is completely irrational, not to mention childish, I have always been jealous that she has something that I don't have .
It's good to hear from people who have never found this to be a problem! DH and I are both quite competitive people and so expect our DCs to be the same - but hopefully over more important things than the number of names they have
To be honest, I don't even like DS's second name that much - DH does though. If anything I'd expect DS to grow up cursing us for saddling him with his second name, and wishing that he only had the 2 names - even if they don't flow that well