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ifinallydidit Fri 25-Sep-09 20:12:24

There have been a number of posts from MNers considering changing the name of their baby recently. I have recently changed my DD's name and thought I'd share my experience.

My DH chose her original name. I was always unsure of it, but went along with it for various reasons. As time went on, I found that I was becoming increasingly unhappy with the name we had chosen, and I ended up getting myself into quite a state over it. My DH was extremely understanding and supportive, and we eventually decided to change it. This wasn't an easy decision and we almost didn't do it. It was easy to change legally as my DD was only a few months old, but I was very nervous about telling people.

I found that while it felt like a huge thing to do for me, nobody else really seemed to really care what we call our child! They have their own lives and their own things to worry about. Everybody has just accepted it and started using the new name. As our friends, they are just happy that we are happy. We are also lucky that we had the support of our families.

I am really pleased that we made the change; I don't think her old name would have ever felt right. I still wonder if it was a crazy thing to do - but my DH and I are both happy with it, which I think is all that matters. My DD is still too young to know, but I hope she agrees that we made the right choice when she is older It has been a little strange getting used to her new name, but it is becoming easier all the time.

I hope this helps anyone who is also considering changing their baby's name. I'd also be interested to hear from others who have done the same thing

audley Fri 25-Sep-09 20:58:38

Well done you. A friend of mine had a little boy and introduced him as Benjamin. When I saw them some time later I said hello to Benjamin and she said, "oh, he's not called that anymore he's called Jordan". I remember thinking that I preferred the original choice blush but he was always Jordan to me from then on. It was easy to make the adjustment smile

LittleMissWorryHead Sat 26-Sep-09 10:47:24

I am the opposite. I really wanted to change it, was desperate to change it.

Its all I could think about, but DH didn't feel the same so in the end I had to drop it.

OMG I am so glad i did - there is no way I could have lived with the new name!! I loved it, and I still do, but its not HIM.

He has grown into his name for sure and do you know, I keep thinking to myself "Thank God I didn't change it" I ADORE his name now, its the best name ever and its just so him!

Well done you for going for it though smile

smother Sat 26-Sep-09 11:41:40

I'm curious - what was the name that didn't feel right?

ifinallydidit Tue 29-Sep-09 13:10:32

I felt that the original name was too faddy, and I was upset that we hadn't gone with a more traditional name. I wish I hadn't agreed to it to start with, as although I am happy with the change, I have found the whole thing quite stressful.

LittleMissWorryHead, I am happy for you that you came around to your DC's name . I don't think I would have though, as it wasn't just that I had another name that I preferred, I was unhappy with the actual type of name we went with.

I suppose we all just have to do what seems right for us as the time. My DH also seems to be very happy with the change - I would never have gone through with it if he had been opposed to it.

We didn't drop my DD's original name, but we added a new first name, and made the original name an additional second name.

smother Tue 29-Sep-09 13:35:22

oh please tell us what the original name was, I need to know!

FimboFortunaFeet Tue 29-Sep-09 13:40:11

I remember dd starting playgroup with a Jennifer we didn't see her over the summer holidays and by the time they met up again in nursery, the girl's name had been changed to Rebecca. Dd took it in her stride it was me that was confuddled.

ifinallydidit Thu 01-Oct-09 17:08:07

I have heard of other people doing this too. They are all friends of friends though, nobody I actually know.

The only thing I am concerned about is that one day I will have to explain the change to my DD (and hope she agrees that we did the right thing). I hope that keeping the original name as a second name will make it seem a little less strange for her.

Has anyone else had to do this? If so, would you mind telling me how old your DC was when you broke the news, and what the reaction was?

pofacedandproud Thu 01-Oct-09 17:18:53

We changed dd's name when she was about 8 weeks. We struggled to agree on a name and in the end decided on one very hurriedly when she was born, and I was unsure about it from the start. We ended up calling her by another name and still do, but we have never changed her birth certificate. Friends and family took to it easily. I do wonder though if we should change her name by deed poll now.

LittleMissWorryHead Thu 01-Oct-09 19:32:20

The name i wanted to change TO is a bit faddy imo, in this country anyway so that knowledge meant sticking with his more traditional solid good old boys name alot easier smile

Glad that your DH was happy too - mine never would have been.

I did change his middle name though - to something that both me and DH love so that if he ever turns round and says "No I don't like my name" He has an equally fabulous middle name to fall back on!

Jumente Thu 01-Oct-09 19:37:32

I did it pretty much in the first couple of days of ds being born.

I'd told people I was going to call him one thing, which was a lovely boys name, (where -apostrophe -thankyou!) so everyone assumed he was that when he was a bit embarrassing to have to tell them we had changed it, especially as nobody liked his new name and even ds1 was adamant he be called the first one sad

Within a week or so it got easier.
He just came out not LOOKING like a William iyswim!

GoppingOtter Thu 01-Oct-09 22:47:50

i did it too ds was maybe 10 weeks old
very glad we did it - the first name was just not right and he really suits his new one

people took the change well

trainers Thu 01-Oct-09 23:12:15

My partner changed his name himself when he was 7 and started using a middle name because he was badly teased for his first name, I think he was brave to do this and most people respected his decision including his parents.

A good case for giving a child more tradional mainsteam middle names perhaps

Concordia Wed 07-Oct-09 00:17:57

oh finally i could have written your post exactly. We changed DD's name by adding in an extra first name and using original name as a middle name.
Most people were very understanding and although i sweated a lot over it at the time no one else thought it was a big deal. She's had the new name 9 months now and it is hard to remember her being the old one (she was 3 months when we switched).
It is definitely the best thing i did as i know i never would have got used to the old name (DH picked it i think because he thought i liked it)
I expect DD will think i am mad when i explain it all later on. Someone has suggested she will use the other name as a teenager just to make a point! But then it will be her choice.

Concordia Wed 07-Oct-09 00:21:02

i too got in a real state with it at the time. not sleeping and worrying etc.
looking back now, it doesn not seem that big a thing.
but i am so proud to introduce her with the new name (never liked introducing her with the old name)

nappyaddict Wed 07-Oct-09 01:52:47

OP how old was she when you changed it?

ifinallydidit Wed 07-Oct-09 08:25:15

She was 6 months old when we changed it officially, and we had been using the new name for a couple of weeks before that.

I wish we had done it earlier now. I had been worried about her name for months (I suppose I am lucky that that was all I had to worry about!), but waited because:

- I wanted to be sure that her name was causing my anxiety, rather than anxiety causing me to worry about her name.
- I wanted to be sure that DH was completely on board with the change
- I was worried that it would be too hard for us to get used to
- I was worried about what people would think

I'm sure I never used to be this much of a worrier!

ifinallydidit Wed 07-Oct-09 09:14:33

Concordia, it does sound like we were in the same boat, except it took me a little longer to pluck up the courage to do it

I also found that no one else seems to think it's a big deal (it still feels like a big deal to me as we changed it fairly recently). It's such a nice feeling to be proud to tell people her name, rather than feeling almost apologetic about it

brockleybelle Thu 08-Oct-09 00:08:34

I'm ever so curious to find out the old name and new name! But I see you've gracefully ignored requests to divulge. Hoping you change your mind grin

ifinallydidit Thu 08-Oct-09 08:11:29

I've been known to grin

Fanfare Thu 08-Oct-09 13:31:01

It's great to hear the positive name-changing stories. I've been pondering changing DS2's name, but my main worry is how he will feel when he's older. A name is such a big part of your identity, I don't know how I'd feel to find out I wasn't always "x", I was once "y". Am i just overthinking this? Does anyone have a thought on this?

ifinallydidit Thu 08-Oct-09 14:39:54

I was, am still am actually, worried about that too. That was the main reason for keeping her original name as an additional middle name. I think that explaining that we used to call her by her second name will be easier than telling her that she once had a different name completely. It will also give her the option of using the original name if she wants to (I hope not as I really don't like it!)

A good friend of mine knows someone who changed their DD's name when she was a few months old - she is now about 8 and apparently just thinks it is funny that she had a different name when she was a baby. I really hope DD feels the same way when she is older.

I'd really like to hear from anyone who has been through this though

PuppyMonkey Thu 08-Oct-09 14:43:01

My sister also changed her dd's name. She was registered as Philippa but all her other kids started calling the baby Flipper and she realised it was just not right. grin

She's now Emily....

Fanfare Thu 08-Oct-09 18:29:59

Yes, I think you're right ifinallydidit, using the original name as a middle name helps make the "old identity" (if I can put it like that) part of the new one.

purpleduck Thu 08-Oct-09 18:43:37


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