ok so long story short: ds3 is born, dp and i cannot decide on a name. we have a shortlist, then a longlist, then another shortlist. all lovely names, none that we LOVE. i have one name that i love, dp hates it.
fastforward 2 weeks. i wear dp down and he agrees that he can live with my name i love. we go and register ds3.
problem: now i am not sure i love it as much as i thought i did. maybe it was hormones. maybe i just wanted what i thought i couldn't have. maybe i am just blood stupid..
but i cannot stop thinking that it just isn't his name. it is a lovely name. everyone says it's fab and it is. but i am not sure it is the right name. we had a second choice and i was thinking of changing it to that, but now even that isn't quite right and i am starting to think of all the bloody names we had on lists and wondering if any suit him any better.
2 weeks time it's his naming day. so, he really needs a definite name by then. despite not loving the name dp is reluctant to change it because it is his name now, and the 2 other ds's like it as well.
i am so torn. do i leave it and risk it annoying me forever more? do i change it? if i change it will i then decide it was right after all. because hey, i've already done that once! and i am scared that i'll change it and then hate the name i've changed it to.
Is it a name that can be shortened to something?? Maybe if you shortened it, it would seem like a new name and then you would like it. FWIW I chose my DD1's name and have never been overly struck on it. DD2's name i LOVE.
CONGRATULATIONS on your lovely new DS....how exciting....
i reckon a MN poll may make things to complicated and that really you are prob having second thoughts about the name as you are sleep deprived and hormonal....i don't really advocate changing names personally but as *custardo says it really does depend on the name and how 'workable' in a RL rather than MN environment... so you kinda gotta tell us the name....
but i don't want people to say "oooh yes you ought to change it" simply because they don't like the name iyswim?
because what it comes down to is, do i really not like it or do i just not love it? if i change it will i then not like the new name either because there really isn't a name i absolutely love, so will i feel the same about any name i just "like"?
it isn't about the actual name per se. do you see what i'm saying? (i have a tendency to blather lol)
i would say in that case try and think about it from your sons point of view instead of your own....if it is a name that will cause him probs, ie a bit effeminate or whatever then it may be a tad self-centred to foist it on him but if its a good strong name for boy and man then really your little wobbles should be irrelevant....its not YOUR name...iyswim
This is the problem with naming committees, which is what a mum and dad, and sometimes also the siblings really are. Not everybody loves every name and you end up with the least objectionable, not necessarily the perfect name for the DC. If everyone else is just fine with it, then try your best to accept it and move on, especially if you don't have the perfect alternative. The baby needs a name, and it looks as if he already has one. If there's a next time, you can get your act together sooner?
i did try and choose one b efore he was born., in fact i think i made my first name list when i was about 12 weeks pg.
i guess the problem is that there was no name we both loved. with ds1 we pretty much knew what he would be from the get-go. ds2 we had a couple that we both really liked, but this time it's been really hard. and as there are soooo many that i like it was difficult to choose the right one for him
i am probably overthinking it waaaaaayyy too much. it's just a name right>>
totally...as long as it isn't a name that will incite bullying and your other two DC like it....and DH at a push cos i actually am of the camp that a mother should name a bubs in the final instance....just go give him a kiss and say 'hello babyXXX'
i had this with dc1 - we named her the more 'controversial' name from our shortlist of 3. at the time it felt right. however for ages i doubted in my mind whether we had done the right thing and regretted it. now she is 8 i don't give it a moments thought as it is her name iyswim.