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would you venture an opinion- i already did and it's gone down like a lead balloon

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sleeplessinstretford Mon 10-Aug-09 14:17:23

so, some friends of ours have one child and are thinking of calling their next child a name which will make them an infamous pairing ie it's not Myra and Ian but we're getting there.So, I said, ooh, have you thought of the connections to blah they hadn't but now apparently the name is ruined and they don't like any other.Should i have said anything and if you were in danger of calling your kids 'fred and rose' or something else like that would you rather someone pointed it out?

lena522 Mon 10-Aug-09 14:20:24

Well, if you hadn't pointed it out someone else would've probably notcied at some point. Better that they realise now than when the baby is here and it's too late to change it

wonderingwondering Mon 10-Aug-09 14:20:25

I wouldn't point it out. In twenty years' time, who knows what infamous or tacky pairings there will be, so there's no guarantee that the name(s) you choose won't attract negative connotations at some point.

And I don't think many people would see two toddlers and immediately think of serial killers!

IneedacleanerIamalazyslattern Mon 10-Aug-09 14:27:32

If the pairing was that obvious and that notorious I probably would actually agree with Lena really someone would have at some point and after the baby was named it would have been worse to spoil the name then.

Bonnie and Clyde?? I am desperate to know what the name was now, if you told us one of them would we guess the other?

sleeplessinstretford Mon 10-Aug-09 14:29:00

holly and jessica actually-so it's the murdered rather than the murderers. both really nice names but unfortunately linked

FimbleHobbs Mon 10-Aug-09 14:29:35

It really depends how infamous the pair are I think. And possibly even what their surnamer is...

No harm in mentioning it though, then its up to the parents to decide if its significant.

I googled my children's names before finalising them, my son is apparently wanted in Scotland for escaping from the Sheriffs Court (he was up for assault), and one variation of my daughter met a tragic end in Australia, but neither thing was enough to put me off.

FimbleHobbs Mon 10-Aug-09 14:31:13

Holly and Jessica - yes I would have pointed that out. But if I was the parent I don't think it'd ruin it for me.

IneedacleanerIamalazyslattern Mon 10-Aug-09 14:33:04

Ah yes I probably would have pointed that out as well.
Not sure if it was me it would ruin the names for me but I think if it hadn't occured to me I would want it pointed out.

mrswoolf Mon 10-Aug-09 14:40:23

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MmeLindt Mon 10-Aug-09 14:43:02

Hmm, I think that I would have said something too. It would have been said sooner or later anyway.

I would have made the connection, and I was not even living in the UK at the time.

Tinker Mon 10-Aug-09 14:45:17

Loads of girls are called Holly and Jessica. I don't think it's particularly noticeable as a coupling.

FAQtothefuture Mon 10-Aug-09 14:46:31

I have to confess I wouldn't have made the connection - so no I wouldn't have pointed it out.

sleeplessinstretford Mon 10-Aug-09 14:47:11

they are both nice names-i was merely commenting on the association and not the niceness of the names, i wouldn't dare in real life to say 'i dislike that name' as it's not my business-but it immediately sprang to mind for me so i assumed it'd do the same with others.

crokky Mon 10-Aug-09 14:50:24

Both are lovely names, but I think I would have said something as well.

clumsymum Mon 10-Aug-09 15:16:16

I don't think I would have made the connection either, so in a few more years it's even less likely.

However, if I had made the connection, I think I might feel obliged to mention it.

MamaLazarou Mon 10-Aug-09 16:35:30

Yes, I would also have said something. But then, I am a big-mouth. grin

MorrisZapp Mon 10-Aug-09 16:58:10

I'd have said something.

Pollyanna Mon 10-Aug-09 16:59:45

I don't think I'd have known the connection.

I thought you were going to say Fred and Rose!

screamingabdab Mon 10-Aug-09 18:41:58

I'm surprised they didn't make the link themselves. I think I would have had to say something, in the circs of two murdered children sad

GirlsAreLoud Mon 10-Aug-09 18:44:38

Yes I would say something. If it doesn't bother them then fine but if it hadn't occurred to them then did later and they didn't like it you would have regretted staying schtum.

fanjoforthemammaries7850 Mon 10-Aug-09 18:51:26

I don't think it's that obvious.

I actually thought you were going to say Fred and Rose!!

liliputlady Mon 10-Aug-09 19:39:46

Yes, I would have definitely wanted that pointing out - you did the right thing.

MaggieBelleVirgo Mon 10-Aug-09 20:20:35

my dd has two friends called this, and I have to admit, I am one who does make the connection and I have to push it out of my head when I hear their names together (as I often do). Those girls went missing just before my dd was born.

jauntinthesurf Tue 11-Aug-09 01:25:30

Yes I would have mentioned.

kitkatqueen Tue 11-Aug-09 01:38:04

I would have mentioned it.

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