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Did you 'love' your babies names?(67 Posts)
We are due a girl September and have a list of names we like but I haven't come across any that have jumped out at me and screamed 'The One'
Am I expectjng too much from a name? Is there such a thing as the perfect name or do you find one you like and they grow into it?
Interested to hear other people's experiences...
Are you an indecisive person? I am and I never found "the one" with any of my kids. I have name regrets and wish I'd picked a different name but that alternative name changes all the time too 🤣. I'm so jealous of people who say "she just came out and we knew she was a Lucy" (for example). But I know what I'm like, I'm not that sort of person. No one is actually born a "Lucy" really I suppose.
I loved my dd’s name before she was born.
It was originally a double barrelled name but pregnancy brain halted for me long enough NOT to do this.
She’s 7 and I still love her name
I started thinking about baby names long before I had even considered having children (when I was still in school actually!) Names have always fascinated me so thinking about them early definitely helped when it came to actually picking a name - it gave me plenty of time to analyse them and take lots of different names into consideration. The name I chose for my DD was one that I'd loved for years and I don't regret choosing it at all. So I think the most important thing is to give yourself plenty of time - it's never too early to put together a list of possible names!
Loved it since the name came to us and still love it, she's 7now.
Not entirely - I am an indecisive sort - but I loved them pretty quickly after choosing them, IYSWIM.
I did the same in a school!
It was going to Samuel James for a boy (it isn’t) and Ruby Jayne for a girl (it isn’t that either)
I think I forgot that my future dh would want an input in our babies names
No. I didn't. I liked the names obviously but there were probably 50 names I'd prefer for my daughter! However we had to find something we both liked and worked in both our languages. Now the name is just associated with 9 year old DD so of course I think it's the best name in the world. After a while the name becomes the person you love and you stop thinking about it.
I like eldest DD's name, but I now sort of wish I'd called her the name we had originally planned before she was born. We took more than 3 weeks to name her as nothing felt special enough (proper PFB!)
DS suits his name perfectly and I couldn't imagine him being called anything else. He was named as soon as I met him (DH made me wait until the next day before announcing it, but I knew that was his name).
DD2 is only 9 months so maybe too early to tell... I had the same feeling as with DS and "knew" her name as soon as I was snuggled up with her after the birth, although I've only very rarely called her by the diminutive I thought I'd use.
So to answer your question... I think it depends!
@Whatsyourflava I was actually actually supposed be a Sophie but when I was born my parents looked at me and decided I looked like a Lucy 🤣
It took us a couple of days to name our son as we were between 3 names. But, we just felt he looked most like his name. It felt right. I couldn’t imagine him having any other name. Now, I’m pregnant again, with a girl, and our name choice is likely to be a compromise as we have wildly different tastes in girls’ names. Will be interesting to see if I end up loving her name as much as my son’s.
I really like DS1's name although it's more popular now than when he was born. I absolutely love DC2 & 3's names though.
Chose a name before each was born. Only chose one boy's name - the same one each time.
I wouldn't say I loved the names, but they felt right and still do.
I'd consider whether you would have liked the name 10 or 5 years ago, and if you still will in 10, ... 50 years' time. If it is something very current, it could sound dated.
First one there was no debate, it was THE one.
Second we went through a few options, several of which I would have loved...but they weren’t THE name in the same way if that makes sense.
My mum recently told me she couldn't decide between my actual name and Simon. I think Simon would have been more extrovert and not ended up as an accountant!
We had one picked out but didn’t feel like it suited her when she arrived. It took us about 3-4 days after she was born to decide (we were in hospital for that long as it was awful birth) and it just popped into my DH’d head and he asked me what I thought. I agreed immediately. We never had it down as a name option so came completely out of the blue! The name we had chosen is one of her middle names (I knew immediately I wouldn’t have another baby so gave her two middle names to honour both our mums).
@topcat2014 I’m pretty sure I know two simons who are accountants 😂
Yes I loved my DS's name before he was born and knew he would be called this name. So when I delivered and found out he was in fact a boy he was given that name and I still absolutely love it.
Yes with all my kids names. Especially with DD. I spoke to someone with the same name for work and called my DH crying saying I’d be really sad if we couldn’t use it (before we knew she was a girl)
Don't worry OP.
I have twins and we were set on one name, but for the other one there just wasn't "the one" right up until, two or so days, away from their birth, and then it clicked. It was a name we had had on our list the whole pregnancy, but it just didn't feel... Like "the one", just like all of the other ones. We were actually planning on a different name I never got to love.
Love my kids names.
We chose both our sons names before they were born. Luckily they were boys as we didn't have a single girls name we both liked
I do love both names, but I'm not sure if I did before they were born? I just really liked them, then once they were actual people with those names I properly loved them.
Meh. Ds is nearly 5 and I'm still not fussed on his name . But it was the only one that DH loved that I didn't hate.
I love my daughter’s names. I knew what her first name would be if she was a girl, but I didn’t choose her middle names until the morning I registered her! I love the meanings and the background to them, and I’m so relieved she was a girl because I didn’t have strong feelings for any boy’s names.
I like DS's name, it's fine and it suits him but I don't love it.
I love DD's name, it was DS's 'girls name' and we still loved it when we had DD.
We didn't want to find out the sex until the birth so we chose a boys and a girls name.
The boys name was easy and decided 100% from when I was about 7 months pregnant. We both loved it, it was the only boys name we wanted, there was no others we even liked. For girls we couldn't choose a name at all, there was only one I really liked, but my husband wasn't as keen as I was, and there was none he was keen on either.
Obviously we would have been happy either way, but in some ways I'm glad we had a boy because the name was definite.