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Help: DISO tips for making a final name decision when *totally* indecisive

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ruthietoothie Thu 06-Dec-18 19:16:10

I'm having a nightmare. Got a lovely newborn boy (well he's almost two weeks now) and just can't seem to settle on a name for him.

Got a shortlist (which keeps changing) and which includes:


But just can't seem to decide which one he suits / which one to go with.

has anyone been in a similar position? Got any tips for how you make your mind up?

In fog of sleep deprivation can't imagine ever making our minds up!!

BendingSpoons Thu 06-Dec-18 19:22:04

Pick a name out a hat. If either of you are disappointed then it's not the one!

Awwlookatmybabyspider Thu 06-Dec-18 19:25:54

Awwwww 6 days old.
I bet hes almost as cute as my Baby Spider. grin
Would you mind putting a picture of him so we can see what name he looks like, or Someone might suggest a name you haven't thought of.

MrsLettuce Thu 06-Dec-18 19:33:46

Has he got any brothers or sisters?

CallMeRachel Thu 06-Dec-18 19:33:53

We share the same taste in names @ruthietoothie

What are his siblings called?

Are they old enough to help choose?

My order of preference is;


Others I like are Matthew and Joshua

Sidandbump Thu 06-Dec-18 19:38:44

You obviously like them all. Get everyone important- parents, siblings, grandparents etc to pick one and write it down. Most votes win. If its a draw repeat it with only the two names as options.

ruthietoothie Thu 06-Dec-18 19:59:52

Great tips @bendingspoons & @sidandbump - starting to get cross with myself at not being able to make a decision,

He does have siblings @mrslettuce & @callmerachel - they are Katie, Liam and Nina, and his surname will be Bell

Polkasq Thu 06-Dec-18 20:08:38

I like Joseph best but think Owen goes best with the sibling names.

GreatDuckCookery6211 Thu 06-Dec-18 20:32:34


Congratulations smile

Conventicle Thu 06-Dec-18 20:39:04

Owen, by loads.

OlennasWimple Thu 06-Dec-18 20:44:54

Liam and Callum are too similar, so you can take that off the list smile

Jamie "fits" with the others, are they are all diminutives. It's a lovely name (and whn you have another you have to give them a name beginning with M so you can have an alphabetical "flush" going J-K-L-M-N grin )

OlennasWimple Thu 06-Dec-18 20:47:13

Oh hang on, scrap that! You can't call him Jamie Bell, sorry (famous actor)

AliCanTea Thu 06-Dec-18 21:26:40

Yes strike off Jamie sadly, due to the actor. Might Callum get shortened to Cal do you think? Cal Bell sounds like cowbell when said aloud. And Cam Bell like a cam belt...? Maybe clutching at straws to help here. Owen and Joseph are lovely, and sound great with the surname too.

barleyreed Thu 06-Dec-18 21:31:52

We practised yelling up our stairs things like 'xxx hurry up dinner's ready', come on 'xxx get your shoes on'! Sounds mad but I think it helped. Now said DC is 3 and I say those things a lot! We also wrote our favourite names on separate post it notes on their bedroom door and walking past them each time helped! Good luck and enjoy your gorgeous newborn, precious days Xxx

DramaAlpaca Thu 06-Dec-18 22:39:25

I like all the names on your list but would rule out, as others have said, Jamie because of the actor & Callum because it's similar to Liam.

I think I'd pick Owen. It's another short, neat name & I think it goes really well.

Sophronia Thu 06-Dec-18 23:05:58

Owen goes well

GoodHeavensNoImAChicken Thu 06-Dec-18 23:08:43

Joseph is lovely and flows beautifully with your other names

PennyMordauntsLadyBrain Thu 06-Dec-18 23:12:16

Owen if he has hair.

Joseph if he’s bald.


BobTheDuvet Thu 06-Dec-18 23:15:29

Any chance you would post a pic? Much easier to match---- a face to a name not just because I want to goo over a baby pic...

BobTheDuvet Thu 06-Dec-18 23:16:08

Strikethrough fail

Shadow1234 Fri 07-Dec-18 00:32:30

I think Owen Or Cameron are the nicest on your list.
Dont like Joe as shortening for Joseph
Callum - is ok, but dont like 'Cal' and is similar to Liam.

Jacob or Jake as an alternative suggestion.

ruthietoothie Fri 07-Dec-18 07:59:05

Here he is! I just can't decide. Might try calling him Owen today and see how we get on as @barleyreed suggests.

ruthietoothie Fri 07-Dec-18 08:01:40

p.s. @PennyMordauntsLadyBrain on your reading he should be an Owen!!

ladycarlotta Fri 07-Dec-18 08:57:46

sweet little guy! Personally I think Jamie is lovely - I take on board the fact he'd share a name with an actor, but it's not like your surname is Pitt and you've decided to call him Brad. I reckon it's a name that's still totally OK to use.

Any of your options are great and fit well with the siblings. I think trying a new name out on him every day and seeing which sticks is probably a good approach - it worked on my sister.

ReginaPhalange89 Fri 07-Dec-18 11:40:16

Aww he's beautiful congratulations!

All lovely names, you have very similar taste to me. They all actually go really nicely with siblings names . I think my favourite is Cameron

Brocade Fri 07-Dec-18 11:53:46

Gorgeous. And totally Owen.

BabarKingoftheElephants Fri 07-Dec-18 11:57:15

Joseph. Beautiful baby Joseph smile

Awwlookatmybabyspider Fri 07-Dec-18 12:01:01

Awwwwwwwwww. He's like a little spikey dinosaur.
How about James rather than Jamie.
Although my dd had a Michael Jackson in her school. He never had any problems. Very much the opposite. Mind you he's a lot Kore famous than Jamie Bell. The kids now probably won't even know who he is. He's not particularly a house hold or street corner jangler name is he.

PennyMordauntsLadyBrain Fri 07-Dec-18 12:26:07

He’s an Owen for sure!

Owen Bell is lovely.

silverliningsa Fri 07-Dec-18 12:55:58

Owen ❤️ he's gorgeous, congratulations op

BobTheDuvet Fri 07-Dec-18 13:56:57

Awww, what a sweetie. Owen for sure smile

GreatDuckCookery6211 Fri 07-Dec-18 13:59:17

He's lovely OP.

I don't like Owen sorry. It's a bland surname to me. Joseph is so much nicer.

3kidsandmore Fri 07-Dec-18 14:26:52

Totally lovely and totally Owen! Congrats x

CocoLoco87 Fri 07-Dec-18 14:36:37

Joseph smile congratulations, he's gorgeous!

MiseryLoves Fri 07-Dec-18 14:49:30

He’s lovely 😊

I like Owen best from your picked names, but he really looks like a Ronnie to me (could be a nn for Cameron?)

foxtiger Fri 07-Dec-18 16:02:09

My favourite is Joseph but I also really like Calum with one L (there are Calums with one L in my extended family so that always seems like the most normal form to me).

VforVloodyHell Fri 07-Dec-18 16:09:20

I agree with a pp about the inevitable shortenings

Cam bell (Campbell)
Cal bell (cow bell)

I like Owen and Joseph best

PersisFord Fri 07-Dec-18 16:12:34

He’s gorgeous, congratulations!

Looks like a Joseph to me, but if you told me he was Owen I would also be pleased.

Bamaluz Fri 07-Dec-18 17:31:13

I like Joseph.

Cookit Fri 07-Dec-18 18:03:46


ruthietoothie Fri 07-Dec-18 19:47:37

Thanks everyone for the thoughts. It feels like we yo-yo-ing between Owen and Joseph atm, and then sometimes considering Callum too (though I do worry that this is too like Liam).

I also like Jamie lots but worry that it's v like Katie and can't decide if it really suits him.

For some reason, Owen does seem to be sticking, but a bit nervous that we'll end up thinking this was an odd choice (wasn't something we thought of till after he was born...)

GreatDuckCookery6211 Fri 07-Dec-18 19:53:45

What about James? Can't go wrong with that.

ClashCityRocker Fri 07-Dec-18 20:21:11

Looks like an Owen to me.

He's beautiful though op, and all your potential names are fine.

ellenpartridge Fri 07-Dec-18 20:40:13

I love and would use Jamie and Joseph but he actually does look like an Owen which is also a lovely name

Hashbrownsandbeans Fri 07-Dec-18 23:38:38

Joseph nn Joe. Perfect and timeless but also cute. Fits well with the others. 4 babies, wow, congrats!

Shadow1234 Sat 08-Dec-18 03:08:28

He is gorgeous - and looks like an Owen.

ruthietoothie Sat 08-Dec-18 10:02:46

@GreatDuckCookery for some reason, I'm not that keen on James. otherwise this would be good option. My mum also suggested Ewan, which is Scottish version of Owen (we're Scottish) but I like Owen better I think....

Still deliberating between Owen and Joseph but think Owen currently in the lead!!

GreatDuckCookery6211 Sat 08-Dec-18 10:32:44

Ah that's a shame OP, James is a good all rounder imo.

What about Rory?

KarineAimee Sat 08-Dec-18 10:42:28

Owen is a great name OP and goes beautifully with your other children’s names smile

ruthietoothie Sat 08-Dec-18 11:51:21

Thanks @KarineAimee - I'm hoping if we go with that, we won't regret it. Does seem to fit for some reason,

@greatduckcookery - I think you're right on James - it's just that I had a bad relationship with someone with that name, and I guess that's what puts me off because of the negative associations...

ruthietoothie Sat 08-Dec-18 19:56:12

p.s... we were originally tempted by Rory, but it seems to be a name that is rapidly growing in popularity.

I'm swinging towards Owen - especially as we spent our honeymoon in Wales, so nice that it is welsh...

GreatDuckCookery6211 Sat 08-Dec-18 20:33:44

Rory is so much nicer than Owen! He looks like a Rory to me grin

tammytoby Sat 08-Dec-18 20:57:05

Imagine if Rory can't pronounce his Rs properly...!?

ruthietoothie Sun 09-Dec-18 17:39:41

@greatduckcookery @tammytoby - I just think Rory is rapidly rising in popularity atm and can imagine there being two/ three Rory's in the class by the time he gets to school

I do like Owen (and Joseph) though know these won't be to everyone's taste...

tammytoby Sun 09-Dec-18 17:46:20

How would that help with the pronunciation with those who struggle with their R?

Belindabauer Sun 09-Dec-18 18:29:24

I th I k either Owen or Joseph can you ask your other dcs which one they prefer?

ruthietoothie Sun 09-Dec-18 20:04:28

@tammytoby - it wouldn't help - that's just why I won't choose Rory

@Belindabauer - yes we could ask other dcs but there's three of them (two old enough to have a view), and I'd worry that they'd disagree and then there'd be arguments about which one we went with.

maybe it's time to flip a coin or just trust my instincts and go with Owen!!

Jfw82 Sun 09-Dec-18 21:06:49

To go the more Gaelic route you could go for Eoin?

Jfw82 Sun 09-Dec-18 21:07:34

Should add I'm biased as I have an Owen of my own! grin

ladycarlotta Mon 10-Dec-18 10:42:57

if your gut's going with Owen, go with Owen. It's a lovely name and it suits him. I reckon you're just experiencing FOMO now re the other names.

MrsRubyMonday Mon 10-Dec-18 10:48:00

If you're choosing Owen because it's Welsh, what about Owain? Pronounced O-wine rather than o-wen. It's the more common form in the part of Wales I'm from and I love it.

ruthietoothie Tue 11-Dec-18 19:22:02

@Jfw82 - good taste!

@ladycarlotta - I think you're probably right. I do think Owen fits and is a good name, but there's just something stopping us going public and making the decision once and for all. Perhaps it's just our lack of sleep!

@mrsrubmonday - - Owain is a lovely name, but I think might be hard to get ppl to get to grips with it here in deepest darkest north of 'England!

PersisFord Wed 12-Dec-18 10:52:41

Would thinking about nicknames help? Round here Owen would be called O and Joseph would be called Joe. L

tammytoby Wed 12-Dec-18 15:08:43

Why on earth would a short name like Owen ever be shortened..!?

It's so easy to say..!

Flamingosnbears Wed 12-Dec-18 16:45:34

Owen goes well with sibling names and it's not too popular...

PersisFord Wed 12-Dec-18 17:49:55

grin everything round here gets shortened. Or lengthened. I know 2 Owens - one known as O, one as Os

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