So hurt

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user1469965217 Tue 04-Dec-18 21:43:41

Hi just need opinions please my ex has just had a son and he has called him a identical name to our son who was stillborn. Please someone tell me they also think this is disrespectful

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AnneLovesGilbert Tue 04-Dec-18 21:44:31

That’s horrific. I’m so sorry flowers

Klobuchar Tue 04-Dec-18 21:45:21

Oh OP, that must be so distressing. Hugs xx

Rainbowqueeen Tue 04-Dec-18 21:45:23

flowers that's a horrible thing to do. I would be really hurt too.

I can see why he is your ex. It must have been a shock to find that out. Please be kind to yourself.

ThomasRichard Tue 04-Dec-18 21:45:27

I’m failing to find words strong enough to express how low, appalling and horrifying I find that OP. I’m so sorry, both for your lost baby boy and for your ex’s selfishness and insensitivity.

calpop Tue 04-Dec-18 21:46:41

That's awful. Actually hard to believe. He must be a sociopath to do that. It's him not you OP. So very sorry for your loss xx

JiltedJohnsJulie Tue 04-Dec-18 21:46:44

That’s beyond words. Look after yourself OP thanks


Nanalisa60 Tue 04-Dec-18 21:47:44

That’s very low of him, in fact I thinks it bad taste.

Enidblyton1 Tue 04-Dec-18 21:49:22

Your ex is completely lacking in empathy.
So sorry for your loss OP flowers

silkpyjamasallday Tue 04-Dec-18 21:49:38

He is disgusting. It's beyond disrespectful. I'm so sorry OP flowers

Sophronia Tue 04-Dec-18 21:50:15

That’s awful sad

greendale17 Tue 04-Dec-18 21:50:46

Oh my, what kind of person would do this???????

WhoKnewBeefStew Tue 04-Dec-18 21:53:27

How awful and insensitive, so sorry op thanks

Momo37 Tue 04-Dec-18 21:55:38

So sorry lovely ❤️ What an insensitive thing to do.

AlwaysSomethingThere Tue 04-Dec-18 21:55:47

Horrible x

YearOfYouRemember Tue 04-Dec-18 21:56:53

I'm so sorry you are distressed. Could he have used the name as a way of honouring your late son ?

babydreamer1 Tue 04-Dec-18 21:58:31

That's horrific and one of the most insensitive things I've ever heard. I can only assume in his own twisted mind he wrongly thought it was a way to honour your baby? I hope things are happier for you now OP, very sorry for your loss.

SnowyPaws5 Tue 04-Dec-18 21:59:57

That is very insensitive and just awful OP flowers

Could there be a possibility that your ex's partner chose the name and did not let your ex have a say?

TheLovleyChebbyMcGee Tue 04-Dec-18 22:00:21

I'm so sorry for your loss, and that's a really awful thing to do, hope you are doing ok.

C0untDucku1a Tue 04-Dec-18 22:00:35

It sounds very distressing for you. Although could he have done it as a way to remember your son?

Betsy86 Tue 04-Dec-18 22:01:31

So sorry op that is beyond awful of him totally disrespectful!!

Gazelda Tue 04-Dec-18 22:03:01

Christ, that must feel like a punch to the stomach. Your DS can never be replaced, there is only one of him in your heart.
I wonder if your ex is honouring your son, but completely lacking in consideration of how it affects you.
Huge sympathies OP, both for your loss and for how raw you must be feeling right now.

user1469965217 Tue 04-Dec-18 22:17:41

Hi thanks so much for replies I feel so hurt. I don't think it's been done as a way of honouring our son as he also stole a lot of his clothes for his new son and both him and his girlfriend have ignored my messages asking for them back and blocked me. I think it was his one last 2 hurt me and boy has it worked x

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SD1978 Tue 04-Dec-18 22:18:33

That's a cruel thing to hear. Was it a family name for him? To not tell you he was planning that is horrible. Also gives a very good reminder of why he's an ex xxx

user1469965217 Tue 04-Dec-18 22:23:05

Hi it wasn't a family name but 4 the last few months his girlfriend had a name now they completely switched. I do believe it has been done partly 2 hurt me

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