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Why am I so scared of the name?!

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Muse84 · 25/10/2017 20:49

Maybe scared isn't the right word. So our baby boy is due in a week (first baby). We have a Scandi name (husband is Swedish) and I like it! It's strong and unusual. And it's the only one I got interested/excited about when searching through the same 10 baby boys names. But I care SO much about what others think, that I get nervous at the idea of announcing the name. Is this ridiculous? Or normal? Is it a warning I should take note of? I wish I could be less of a conformist Confused Look, it's not saddling baby with a freaky name, it'll be fine be on his CV and our families love the name. I just have a morbid fear of other people scoffing/being derisive about the name. Then again, my friend told me people had an opinion (sometimes negative) even on the most common/sensible of names with her boy! I've even considered asking UK adults with this name (Facebook) how they felt/feel about it. Which I know is mental. Aaaaaargh!

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calzone · 25/10/2017 20:50

We need to know the name.

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cf21 · 25/10/2017 20:54

I don’t think we do need to know it (although I am curious) what matters is that you like and it means something to you.

If it will be fine for your little one in future then there’s really no one else that you need to worry about. I’m sure people would never be as rude as to tell you they don’t like it anyway.

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Santawontbelong · 25/10/2017 20:55

My ds has a name not so common. . Go for it op!! And tell us!!

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cf21 · 25/10/2017 20:57

And congratulations by the way! Such an exciting time!

My little girl has an unusual name and I love it. We’ve had nothing but positive reactions, but even if we did get a bad one, I really wouldn’t care.

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Muse84 · 25/10/2017 21:01

Thanks everyone. I'm hoping I'll become a proud mama bear and e proud of the name rather than caring about everyone else (I'm like this with many things- "appearance" matters way more than it should). Anyway. I know I always like to know the names on such threads. So it's Magnus! With a scandi surname

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Lattedrinker · 25/10/2017 21:02

Please tell us the name- am intrigued. Even if people think it, they won’t say anything to you directly you’ll be none-the-wiser.

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Liara · 25/10/2017 21:03

You can get the most boring, conformist name in the universe and for all you know your dc will move abroad and the name will be positively offensive/unpronounceable there.

We worked really hard on ds1's name, as I needed it to work in the three languages he'd have to function in. By the time he was 3 he'd decided he hated it and insisted on being called a nickname that really, really didn't work in the language of the country we were living in at the time. Frankly, it mattered not a damn, but we did get a few funny looks.

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Lattedrinker · 25/10/2017 21:04

Nice name!
Wishing Magnus a safe arrival. X

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MikeUniformMike · 25/10/2017 21:05

Magnus is a terrific name. Not too trendy although it is popular, it has been around a while. Magnus Pike and Magnus Magnusson were TV personalities in the 70s or 80s IIRC.
It's a pleasant sounding name, not difficult to spell or pronounce. It's a winner.

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Quartz2208 · 25/10/2017 21:05

It is a very swedish name, he has a swedish dad and surname

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Misspilly88 · 25/10/2017 21:07

Magnus is AMAZING.

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allegretto · 25/10/2017 21:07

I like it. I was at school with a Magnus and he was great.

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Tawdrylocalbrouhaha · 25/10/2017 21:08

Magnus is not unusual around East London - I know three (all aged 2 or 3). If you hang around with vaguely arty middle-classish people you will be conforming perfectly!

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Sandsnake · 25/10/2017 21:08

Magnus is really great, especially as he has a Swedish father so it reflects part of his heritage. If you care a lot about others' opinions then please take mine as a positive! And good luck for the arrival of baby Magnus Smile.

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SandunesAndRainclouds · 25/10/2017 21:09

I like it!

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ElephantsandTigers · 25/10/2017 21:09

That is an awesome name. Fabulous. It’s not like you want to call him Popcorn or Burger.

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Muse84 · 25/10/2017 21:10

Thank you so much! I love your reasons and specific examples, it really helps

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glasshalfsomething · 25/10/2017 21:10

Love it! Good choice and I'm sure it will suit him perfectly.

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nameohnameohname · 25/10/2017 21:11

Just lovely. And fuck what everyone else thinks!
I remember my step mother telling me that she’d pretended to her neighbours that I’d called my son something different because she was ‘embarrassed’ to tell them his name. Obviously I love his name.
She told me a different time that she’d named her own son ‘the most beautiful name I have ever heard’ - I thought it was awful.
So the moral of that story is you won’t please everyone! And why should you? You get to name your son the most wonderful name you can think of, just like we all did.

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cf21 · 25/10/2017 21:11

Gorgeous name! There really is no need to worry Smile

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cf21 · 25/10/2017 21:12

Also nameohnameohname I would go bonkers if my step mum did that haha

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Iamagenius · 25/10/2017 21:13

I teach a Magnus and he is one of the best young men I have ever taught. It’s a great name.

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Winterhotchocolate · 25/10/2017 21:15

Love it. Go for it!

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CandyMelts · 25/10/2017 21:15

Brilliant name! And I'm not arty/London at all

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AmITwirly · 25/10/2017 21:17

Magnus is a great name. It's strong, everyone will know how to spell it and you can call him Gus for short.

I think it's relatively popular amongst arty, left-wingers eg the comedian Ed Byrne has one.

Your son's Skandi heritage makes it perfect.Smile

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