Hi all
I'm currently expecting my 2nd child (boy) with my partner of 3 years. I have a 5 year old boy from a previous relationship who does not see his natural father and considers my partner to be his dad (he knows he is not his natural father).
The problem I am having is I keep getting asked what surname I am giving the new baby, as my son has my surname. I changed my sons surname to mine from his natural fathers as his natural father is quite bluntly an awful person and someone who will never be in his life again due to his poor life choices.. so I didn't see it fair that my son had his surname when he wasn't in his lift anymore.
Anyway my natural choice for the new baby is to give him the surname of my partner. Marriage is on the cards for us one day so it would mean myself one day sharing the surname of my partner and youngest son and my oldest son having my maiden name still.
I keep getting comments from my parents and friends saying how it will affect my oldest son and make him feel singled out. My answer is that I never planned to have 2 children by 2 fathers and 2 children with different names but that is the reality of it. I also say that if myself and my partner are doing our job properly, my oldest son will never feel the need to question his belonging in the family, as it's just a name. I keep getting pressured to hyphenate the new baby's surname so it is similar to my oldest sons, but I just see this as a faff. Am I overthinking this? Help!
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lucyst87 · 20/07/2017 21:36
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