I would find it weird and intrusive not to have free choice over my own child's name. Which is a little ironic as I didn't get to name my DC as they came with their own name when we adopted them, and I am perfectly happy with that.
I would find it weird and intrusive not to have free choice over my own child's name.
Same here. My heart sinks a little when I see names like those in the OP because - MN cliche coming up - that kid will grow up to be an adult and I think what you're named affects how you are perceived in the job market and socially, but beyond that I can't get riled up any more.
I was going to say something about the bureaucratic difficulty caused by a limited number of names in Denmark, like having several Pia Jensens in the same year at school. But then I thought about names here, e.g. Mary Ryan (I live in Ireland) and how they all seem to get through life without any issues. Maybe 7000 names is enough for a smallish population to get by with. I wonder if they make exceptions for the children born to parents of non-Danish origin?
I'm living in denmark and you can apply to have a name put on the approved list if you want but it takes a little while. We wanted to be able to visit the UK as soon as possible so we were restricted in the names we could choose. We had to use a more traditional less common spelling of our sons name. Some names you would consider "normal" in the UK aren't on the list, while others that have recently been approved include: Ninja, Panda, Skat (the Danish equivilant of calling your child Hun), Aloha, Dreng (this is the word for boy) Awesome and Haj (shark). The rules in other countries aren't as great as you might think
My original country has restrictions, you cannot use names that have too unusual and unsuitable spellings or pronounciations, nothing with numbers and symbols or that are insulting or rude. And yes there are exceptions if you can show you have cultural etc reasons to use this otherwise unusual name.
I don't really mind - there are a lot of areas where the government restricts your right as a parent. Protects children when the parents think it would be really fun to call them Shithouse number 54
BlackAmericano (nice choice of drink by the way) - I worked in a school where there were two boys with exactly the same name, let's call them Connor Brown. "Big" Connor Brown was in year 5 and was aggressive, noisy and often in trouble. "Little" Connor Brown was in year R, tiny for his age, cried most days and wouldn't say boo to a goose. One day in assembly Big Connor must have been doing something silly because the deputy head suddenly shouted "CONNOR BROWN STOP THAT IMMEDIATELY!" And Little Connor shot about three feet up into the air and burst into loud wails.
Oh dear Lord the bears I am very glad that we aren't limited in names. My daughters have unusual names but neither are crazy or offensive. As for it being easy to pin point their gender, with gender fluidity being more and more acceptable nowadays except on Mumsnet It can be a comfort and advantage to trans youth and their family that they can seek their true identity without having to seek a new name. I've just finished a fantastic memoir by the mother of a ftm trans son and he expressed to her, as did his grandparents that he/they were so pleased he didn't have to change his name.
A requirement to have gender specific names would be particularly difficult in English speaking countries where there is a long history of gender drift. Names like Hilary, Shirley, Jocelyn, Lindsay, Sidney and Lynne were all male names that drifted into being used for girls.