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WWYD? And alternative names to Dylan?

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10storeylovesong Thu 18-May-17 21:32:12

One of our circle of acquaintances has just announced the birth of their son, with the name Dylan. I'm currently 20 weeks with our ds2 and Dylan was the only name DH and I agreed on. The middle name was going to be Robert (family name).

They are not close friends - we don't socialise together and don't even have each other's phone numbers. Dh plays football sometimes with the husband.

Would you still use the name? And if not, can you suggest alternatives? DS1 is Sebastian, known as Seb.

Thanks!

buttercup54321 Thu 18-May-17 21:33:22

Dylan is lovely. I would still use it xx

bigchris Thu 18-May-17 21:33:44

I'd still use the name

10storeylovesong Thu 18-May-17 21:41:42

Thank you for replies. I was initially thinking that we wouldn't be able to, but after spending an hour going through names with dh it's beginning to be clear that we're going to have to. Unless something we love crops up in next 20 weeks!

Sadik Thu 18-May-17 21:45:06

I would totally still use it.

If you wanted other suggestions, Morgan has a similar 'feel' to me and is a little more uncommon (whilst still being a well known name).

Muchtoomuchtodo Thu 18-May-17 21:48:35

Not a really close friend or close family - use the name you love.

YouWhatMate Thu 18-May-17 22:36:56

People are so over the top about using names that other people have used. Newsflash: most names (including Dylan) are given to hundreds or thousands of kids every year!)

I would definitely use it. He's not even a close friend (and even then I'd still probably use it)

10storeylovesong Fri 19-May-17 07:28:37

I get that there's thousands of others with the same name - it's a top 20 name so dh reckons it's just fair game. It's not a popular name in this area though, I've not heard another one.

I think it's more the people who have used it that bother me, and the fact that it's so close together. Dh said the next time he sees him at the gym he's just going to say congratulations and that name was the one we'd chosen and we're probably still going to use it so it's not a surprise when we do.

C0untDucku1a Fri 19-May-17 07:32:02

Dylan Robert? Can you not just change the order to, you know, Bob Dylan? grin

MerlinEmrys Fri 19-May-17 07:45:13

Presumably if you're 20weeks your ds will be. Oren into he next school year so if these two boys were going to be at the same school at least they won't be in the same class and be Dylans A and B.

JunebabyT Fri 19-May-17 07:50:53

I would still use it

Frazzled2207 Fri 19-May-17 07:52:30

Not a close friend or relative so i'd still use it. Nice name.

HeyCat Fri 19-May-17 07:54:50

Definitely still use it, don't worry.

I wouldn't even bother "warning" them in advance, in general you should keep your chosen name secret until baby is here.

Lemondrop99 Fri 19-May-17 08:40:36

Definitely still use it. I also wouldn't bother warning them - it just makes it into a "thing". If it was a close friend or relative where it could cause a problem, then yes, discuss. But a casual acquaintance and a relatively common name? Don't bother, just announce it when your DS is born

DuggeeHugs Fri 19-May-17 08:52:11

I wouldn't say anything, just use it for your DS when he arrives; there are so many degrees of separation here they would appear churlish to make a thing about it.

Jooni Fri 19-May-17 09:01:58

Still use it, it's not an unusual name so I don't think it's going to look like you've "stolen" it or anything. If you want to, mention in passing when you next see them that it's your chosen name too, but the other parents shouldn't be expecting their Dylan to be the only one they know as it's a fairly popular name.

Other ideas:

Declan
Lachlan
Lorcan
Theo
Soren
Arran
Cillian

BreakfastAtSquiffanys Fri 19-May-17 09:04:12

I'd use it.

Look at it this way, if you decided to call your child Fred because you didn't know any other baby Freds, then lovely new neighbours moved in with a one year old called Fred, what would you do?
Refuse to socialise with them?
Get the huff?
Change your Fred's name?

Sugarpiehoneyeye Fri 19-May-17 09:40:33

Dylan is a great name, I have one ! 😄
Under the circumstances you've provided, you can definitely still use it.

CricketRuntAndRashers Fri 19-May-17 09:48:26

I think your DH has the right idea. It's quite popular. I think it's perfectly fine smile !

NameChange30 Fri 19-May-17 09:48:34

Definitely use it anyway.

Maybe your DH could casually say something like "love the name Dylan, it's on our shortlist" and then move on to another subject? So it's not completely out of the blue if/when you announce it? I agree with PPs that you shouldn't say it's the name you've definitely chosen, just keep it vague.

We didn't tell anyone DS's name until he was born. It was difficult sometimes (I don't like keeping secrets and our families were pressuring us to tell them!) but I still think it was the right decision. I didn't want to be influenced by people's reactions, I wanted to wait until DS was born before confirming our decision (just in case we changed our minds), and it was nice to announce his name when we announced the birth. Everyone is so happy for you that they can't be mean about the name not to your face anyway.

10storeylovesong Fri 19-May-17 10:02:46

Thanks all, you've concreted my decision to use it.

I did click on the Bob Dylan connection. The middle name probably won't get used much, but ds1 has the male family name that runs in dh's family, and I know it would mean the world to my dad if we used it. It was his dad's name (who I never met) and it's my brother's middle name.

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