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Same name as second cousin....who I've never met

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nicholar Tue 09-May-17 09:24:28

Due in a few days and we have a list of names picked out but one is definitely at the top of the list.
Today my OH mentions that he just remembered that his cousins daughter is named that so we can't have it.
I've never met these cousins and have only heard them mentioned once in 3 years!
Would you still go for that name or name her something else?

Rockaby Tue 09-May-17 09:28:30

I'd still go for it. That's a really tenuous link. In fact, I've only just noticed since I started typing this that my nephew (my brother's son) has the same name as our cousin's son. It's never been an issue. They've never met.

Cracker09jacker Tue 09-May-17 09:31:45

I did this inadvertently. Had never met the child, didn't know his name. They're similar in age but so far they've crossed paths once and it wasn't an issue. If you love the name go for it.

LineysRun Tue 09-May-17 09:32:38

My family is full of family names. I think it's fine.

PamBagnallsGotACollage Tue 09-May-17 09:34:29

It really doesn't matter. My child has the same as my cousin who we see regularly. There are other same-names between uncles and nephews/ aunts nieces in my family too. See each other regularly. Not an issue.

QuietNameChange Tue 09-May-17 09:38:54

My family is full of family names. It seems fine to me smile

FATEdestiny Tue 09-May-17 09:42:55

My daughter has the same gender-natural name as my cousins son, so DDs second cousin. They are each other very occassionally at large family get together.

It never even occurred to me it was a problem.

I do also like my cousins name, but I wouldn't use that for my child. That seems too much of a close relation.

wigglesrock Tue 09-May-17 09:44:34

It happens all the time in my family - we're overrun with Catherines at the minute grin. My niece has exactly the same names - first and surname as a second cousin. We didn't realise until the kids were about 2 - I think we've all been in the same place about twice in the past five years.

Galla Tue 09-May-17 09:45:25

Is it a top 10 type name and really common so its used a lot anyway or is it a family name which you both decided to keep going?

If its a common one, are you really sure you want to name your child it and have them have to use their surname in school to distinguish them from all the others with the same first name?

I have one child with a common name and one child with a rare name, and as its a few years later, I can safely say I am much happier with the rare name than the common name for many reasons.

Floggingmolly Tue 09-May-17 09:46:56

That's a complete non issue.

drspouse Tue 09-May-17 09:50:14

My DS has a first name from my side of the family (there are 2 living members, both adults, with the same name) and a middle name that's on both sides - and then my surname as another middle name. So his two middle names are the same full name as one of my cousins e.g. if I'm a Smith and DH is a Jones then DS is Rupert Arthur Smith Jones and my cousin's an Arthur Smith.

And my DD has a first name from DH's side and again middle name from both sides so she's Fenella Ermentrude Smith Jones and my mother is Ermentrude Smith.

My DS is tickled that he shares his "Rupert" with other family members and tells everyone that he's got the same name as X relative (who in fact goes by "Roo").

nicholar Tue 09-May-17 09:52:55

No it's not a common name as such. Think it's around no 40 in the top name lists.
I'm glad others don't seem to think it matters either! I don't want my decision swayed by some cousin that has never been mentioned before!

MollyHuaCha Tue 09-May-17 09:53:09

Go for the name you've chosen. It's fine :-)

WhingingTulip Tue 09-May-17 09:57:29

My son has the same name as my cousins son. I don't see her very often but she (and her son!) think it's cool. I'd go for it!

MaidenMotherCrone Tue 09-May-17 10:01:22

My niece chose the same first name as my DS, I thought it was lovely actually. They are known as big x and little x or Maiden's x and Maiden's Niece's x.

Sugarpiehoneyeye Tue 09-May-17 12:06:30

It doesn't matter a jot, go for it OP !

harderandharder2breathe Tue 09-May-17 12:34:06

Why would the name of someone you've never met matter? Don't worry about it

I have cousins with the same name (I have a metric shit ton of cousins and cousins children). Even when they meet it's just a moment of ooh both the Emma's together (not actual name), it's not a problem

IJustGotHitByADeer Thu 11-May-17 17:20:45

DH has the first name as his second cousin but they hardly ever see each other and go by different names (e.g. Timothy and Tim, names changed)

It's never caused a problem but DH is older and had the name first so it does annoy MIL a bit

If you love the name I'd go for it personally

Chatelherault Thu 11-May-17 20:08:36

So tenuous you needn't worry about it - go for it.

Love51 Thu 11-May-17 20:11:18

If they have different surnames it isn't even an issue.

Firenight Thu 11-May-17 20:11:22

My son shares a name with my second cousin. It didn't even occur to me until my parent mentioned it.

LouiseBrooks Thu 11-May-17 20:18:59

My cousin gave his daughter ( 9 years younger than me) the same name as me. We also had, until marriage, the same surname. I was named after my father's granny who was also her father's great granny, she was named after her mother's granny. Nobody batted an eyelid. I am known as Louise and she is Lou.

MadeForThis Thu 11-May-17 20:57:31

I know a brother and sister who both used the same name for their ds. Quite a popular name. No one thinks it's strange. They are two completely different personalities. And about 7/8 years apart in age.

YouWhatMate Thu 11-May-17 21:04:54

I would use it for sure. I see my cousins about once a year (it was multiple times a year when we were young) and I'd still use the same name as they have if I loved it.

It's fair enough to rule out names used by siblings and best friends, but if you start casting that net any wider, you just end up with an endless list of names you can't use - it'd be ridiculous.

user1493022461 Thu 11-May-17 21:07:08

My DH has three first cousins with the same name.

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