DS is called Jos. My sister is called Jess. I didn't make this connection until she pointed it out when DS was a few weeks old. It doesn't bother me, I love his name, he's a total Jos, but now we're expecting DC2 and all our girl name choices are similar to relatives, and I'm worried it's just going to make us look very unimaginative and ridiculous?
Adelaide (would most likely get Addy?) - DNiece is called Abby. Adelaide has been our girl name since before DS and DN were conceived. Also like the nn Heidi.
Avery - my Nanna's name and I think she might think naming after a relative is a bit naff? I'll have to ask her, but then it would be awkward if we changed our minds
Anna - I have a cousin called Hannah
Zara - my mum is called Sarah
Do you think any of that matters, are we overthinking things? FWIW none of those people have the same surname as us except for Abby.
To make matters more complex, DNiece is due a brother or sister 7 days before my DC2 is due (but I'm having a section). Luckily I don't think BIL & SIL have similar taste to us. DS and DN were due 2 days apart!
(I realise this is very outing but can't think why that might be a problem for me. <Waves> if you know me! )
I don't think it matters at all. I love your name choices. Surely it could only be seen as a compliment, to have a relative name their baby after you, or with a similar name. As you say, you also have a different surname. Use your favourite name Bendy, I certainly would. 😄
Crunchymum because Heidi is a diminutive of Adelheid, which is where Adelaide comes from.
Thanks everyone, maybe it's not such a big deal! It might sound funny ' Jos and Anna/Jess and Hannah... my poor grandma would get so mixed up haha! But if you're all saying it's not a big deal I can easily accept that and pick from all the names we love