Daughter is almost 10 months old... I don't know if I regret her name :(

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JasmineS88 Fri 28-Oct-16 15:25:23

I still love her name. However, it's very American... In the UK, no girls ever get named this. My mum hates it, but she soon got over it (but sometimes makes subtle digs)...

No one likes it (especially on here)...

I've had a few "oh, that's different! I quite like that!" confused which I think was meant... However, I often get "oh, you don't really seem the type!" blush which is just rude. Even HCPs seem to make digs - often constantly saying her name out loud (not when they're talking to her) like they're trying to understand why I named her it.

Like I say, I still love it, but I now feel awkward joining groups/clubs, as I know they'll judge her/me. It's only going to get worse when she joins school sad

I don't know what to do.

ThroughThickAndThin01 Fri 28-Oct-16 15:27:12

Could you start using her middle name?

Coconutty Fri 28-Oct-16 15:28:11

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CotswoldStrife Fri 28-Oct-16 15:29:11

Do that many people really comment about her name, or do you think you might be a bit over-sensitive about it?

Boredomismyenemy Fri 28-Oct-16 15:31:10

If you like it, then stop worrying what others think. She's your child, to name as you see fit, similarly they can name their own children as they see fit!

OnceMoreIntoTheBleach Fri 28-Oct-16 15:32:23

Can you shorten it to a NN op? Something easier until she is old enough to decide?

My DD has an unusual name, but NN is easy to say/pronounce so we went with that, but her full name will be great when she is older.

BoyGirlBoy3 Fri 28-Oct-16 15:33:28

If you want ideas of how to alter it slightly, we need to know it. If you want support to brave it out, you don't need it. People could be picking up cues from your body language that you have reservations about the name. You just need to confidently say the name, and move the conversation on.

I also know several children who are not using their birth certificate name at all. You could just rename her as a nickname! Anything you like.

stonygreysoil Fri 28-Oct-16 15:33:56

any way you can shorten it to something that rubs along a but easier?

How american are we talking!?

JasmineS88 Fri 28-Oct-16 15:34:08

ThroughThickAndThin01 - I suppose, or I could use the first half of her name (it's 2 names joined together (obviously not this, but think Roseanna, so just use Rose))...

Coconutty - her dad likes it!

CotswoldStrife - that many people really do, unfortunately sad I love the name, so I wouldn't be sensitive about it (as in, looking for people to hate it, as I regretted it, IYSWIM?)

JasmineS88 Fri 28-Oct-16 15:35:23

Massive XPost!

notagiraffe Fri 28-Oct-16 15:35:55

Is it a name that some people in UK would classify as white trash? Like Madison? Or one of those names that's common in USA but odd in UK, like Kendra? If it is, you might continue feeling embarrassed and if your daughter picked up on that, she'd feel self-conscious. But if you love her name, don't apologise for it. One of my DC has a 'common' name. It's a family name and I adore it. I don't care what others think.

notagiraffe Fri 28-Oct-16 15:37:20

Sorry, crossed with you, OP.

LumelaMme Fri 28-Oct-16 15:39:01

If it's any comfort, one of my DC has a very, very unusual name. I used to get the odd comment and the 'Where's that from?' with a raised eyebrow and now have the hide of elephant. The key thing is that the name's bearer, now at uni, absolutely loves it.

Hang in there. Other people need to get over themselves.

stonygreysoil Fri 28-Oct-16 15:39:07

OP if first half is Rose, or anything as nice as that, you've got no issue at all. Stick with first half and let your daughter make her own mind up as time goes along.

Like a poster above , we don't use DDs full name at present, but it will be a lovely name for an adult.

ThroughThickAndThin01 Fri 28-Oct-16 15:39:13

If it's similar to Roseanna then theres nothing wrong with that.

I think I'd just start calling her a variation of her names so she can use whichever she likes when she's older.

So Rose, Rosie, Anna, Annie etc

JasmineS88 Fri 28-Oct-16 15:44:24

I used Roseanna as an example, as it's 2 names together, but 2 normal names - which DD's is, so I probably will just use the first half, but interchange!

shouldwestayorshouldwego Fri 28-Oct-16 15:45:11

Was going to say something similar to Lume. One of ours was saying the other day how much she loves her name. It's unusual but not too out there. If you want to then use half as a nickname and let her decide. For all you know she may go to an Ivy league college and fit right in!

mudandmayhem01 Fri 28-Oct-16 15:45:42

Would it be too identifying to say what the name actually is to get some honest feed back, you could always repost in 30 days only so it will disappear.

ThroughThickAndThin01 Fri 28-Oct-16 15:47:11

So ....something like Erinlouise?

I'd just start using the first name of the whole thing.

GerdaLovesLili Fri 28-Oct-16 15:48:31

So like Daisy-May? Which is cute on paper, but once the novelty's worn off, less easy to live with. Could you use a nick-name that means the same like Marguerite for Daisy?

Joinourclub Fri 28-Oct-16 15:50:35

It will probably change as she gets older and starts to own her name a little more, people will comment less.

NotYoda Fri 28-Oct-16 15:52:55

If it's hyphenated, I'd lose the second half. Or if it sounds hyphenated, lose the second half.

Having said that, Roseanna doesn't sound hyphenated, so that's OK.

I am only saying this because you are asking anonymously. If I knew you, I'd never be so rude as to comment out loud

brasty Fri 28-Oct-16 15:53:00

If someone has an unusual name I say it out loud at first a lot, so I can remember it. I suspect this is what HCPs are doing, rather than having a dig. Trust me HCPs will have heard some really way out names.

JasmineS88 Fri 28-Oct-16 15:53:52

There's a thread on MN, from last year, with awful comments about the name (not my thread) so that puts me off saying it.

Can no one be nasty? I really don't need that, I know it's not liked.

It's Gracelynn...

Aquiver Fri 28-Oct-16 15:55:15

Oh Gracelynn is very pretty OP smile

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