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DD will be 1 tomorrow, the final day to change her name easily, isn't it? Should I change it?

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ZoeXander Thu 06-Oct-16 00:38:06

I've obviously name changed for this.

DD has a name that I used to love. I ummed and ahhed about using it for ages, there wasn't a name I loved more, but when I finally thought I'd just go for it, I had lots of negative comments about it, etc.

It's a hyphenated name, but it kind of sounds like one name...

There's a whole different name that I have fallen in love with - it's very 'normal' so I don't think I'd regret it.

PointlessUsername Thu 06-Oct-16 00:40:03

If you're still not happy with it after a year I'd change it.

ColdTeaAgain Thu 06-Oct-16 00:45:41

I'd change it. May just have swallow a bit of pride and prepare yourself for the "told you so" comments. But if you don't like the name after a year then I'd be worried I'd always regret it.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost Thu 06-Oct-16 02:06:01

In my opinion. I must stress opinion not fact!!!!!!
. You've made your bed. You'll have to lie it. She's nearly 1 year old. She'll know her name. You can't change it now

WanderingTrolley1 Thu 06-Oct-16 02:13:58

What happens when you fall out of love with the new name?!

Tartyflette Thu 06-Oct-16 02:23:32

I must admit I haven't heard of anyone doing this (and I didn't even know it was possible) but it seems a bit extreme, and as a PP said, your DD already knows what her name is. It will be confusing for her and for other people too, scope for mistakes etc
If you have come to really dislike the name could you gradually start calling her by a nickname, perhaps a shortened version of her proper name, or something like that?

sycamore54321 Thu 06-Oct-16 03:00:21

No, absolutely not. Parents get to choose a name when the child does not have one but that does not mean they get to change the name subsequently simply because your tastes have changed. It is disrespectful to your daughter as an individual - this is now HER name, not yours.

You can do all sort of things with day-to-day nicknames but I really do not think you have the moral right to change her official name, even if it is technically possible. You are making this all about you, YOU changed your mind, YOU now prefer a new name, YOU didn't like getting negative comments. But it is her name. Change your own if you like the new name so much.

Also, if you think people made negative comments about your original choice, you should know to expect multiple raised eyebrows at the fact of changing it at all, with no guarantee that people whose opinions you seem to value, will like the new name either.

Joinourclub Thu 06-Oct-16 03:07:51

Sorry but I think that boat has sailed. You gave her the name, it's hers now, you can't take it back. Changing her You CAN give her another nick name on top.

Sugarpiehoneyeye Thu 06-Oct-16 08:21:49

I call, too late, a year has passed. Sorry Zoe.

Loyly Thu 06-Oct-16 08:28:34

'There wasn't a name I loved more'
'There's a whole different name that I have fallen in love with'

Sorry, I think YABU for this reason. It isn't about your changing likes any more. It's her name now. Just call her a nickname. In our family, some people are so well-known by their nicknames that I honestly can't remember their given names. Maybe that could be a solution for you.

TondelayaDellaVentamiglia Thu 06-Oct-16 08:31:40

you have six weeks to fanny about with names...pull yourself together and find something important to worry about.

I'll never get all this angst and trauma, are you like this with all decisions?

0pti0na1 Thu 06-Oct-16 09:24:13

Who made negative comments? Friends and family are supposed to accept the name you've chosen, not criticise it.

Pipilangstrumpf Thu 06-Oct-16 09:41:26

No way would I change a one year olds name! You had your chance to name her and your dd knows her name. It wouldn't be fair to change it just because you've changed your mind.

luciole15 Thu 06-Oct-16 09:44:42

Add the one you prefer now as a middle name so she can choose when she's older?

MrsHulk Thu 06-Oct-16 10:24:06

On a practical level, I'm not sure you still have time? I assume there's some kind of appointment or form filling you'd need to do, and she turns one tomorrow?

If you do still have time, then bear in mind her original name will always be on her birth certificate, so you/she will need to explain it in future.

I wouldn't worry about her knowing her name or being confused though tbh - till he was 14 months our boy thought his name was "cutie" cos that was our nickname for him, we just phased it out and started using his actual name more, it doesn't seem to have caused him any confusion or upset.

CinderellaFant Thu 06-Oct-16 10:26:16

It's too late. Keep the new name incase you have another daughter

ZoeXander Thu 06-Oct-16 10:30:42

I am thinking about her. All you read on here "she won't get a job with that name" "she will be looked down upon"

Sgoinneal Thu 06-Oct-16 10:30:45

It isn't about your changing likes any more. It's her name now. Just call her a nickname. In our family, some people are so well-known by their nicknames that I honestly can't remember their given names.

Totally agree with this from loyly. The six week period is to allow genuine changes of heart, dare I say once the hormones have settled down? To change her name now when she will recognise it, because you like something else isn't right. It's hers to change when and if she chooses now. A nickname would be a sensible compromise.

Sgoinneal Thu 06-Oct-16 10:31:27

Oh and don't GAF about people on here. It's not real. Of course she will get work and will prosper regardless.

Nishky Thu 06-Oct-16 10:35:39

When she is older she can call herself something different if she chooses surely?

Iguessyourestuckwithme Thu 06-Oct-16 10:44:18

You had 9 months to choose a name and 6 weeks to change/register it.

Your daughter is her name, don't change it - imagine when she looks through old video's birth announcements etc and sees that she was called A and is now called B.

You obviously loved her name when you chose it. Why not use a nickname at the moment while you're having your doubts and then restart using her name again soon.

gratesnakes Thu 06-Oct-16 10:56:45

You obviously want to change it and think it's the right thing to do, so do it. She will learn her new name in no time. From the child's point of view it's no different to a parent deciding to call a dd Kate instead of Catherine from the age of 1. But don't change it again!
btw I have known someone who did this with no problems.

Sackmagique Thu 06-Oct-16 11:01:53

Don't worry about what people on MN think of your baby name.

JaneAustinAllegro Thu 06-Oct-16 11:04:40

if it's the type of name that would get those "she won't get a job" comments (SUnshine-Poppy-Uniquorne etc etc) then use the normal name you like and add it to the front of the name you call her. You can continue to call her Sunshine Poppy Uniquorne but you will have given her teh option of travelling by her first (normal) name when she wants to be a U.N. Ambassador or similar.

WanderingTrolley1 Thu 06-Oct-16 23:51:02

How can you love it and then want to change it so much?!

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