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My son is 9 months old but doesn't suit his name. I hate it...

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Pebbles1000 Wed 29-Jun-16 20:49:57

I'm really upset but I'm not sure if it is fair to change his name. It doesn't suit him but I know that's a stupid reason. It was the only one we could agree on. My partner refused to use any other name but now claims he never said that, so I would love to use the name he said that I couldn't.

He is called Louie, we do have problems with the spelling but no pronunciation problems, luckily.

He just doesn't suit it but I don't know if that's because I have my heart set on the other name.

Everyone says I shouldn't but I don't know sad

NewStartNewName Wed 29-Jun-16 20:52:29

It's a child, not a dog ffs, you sound about 12

Pebbles1000 Wed 29-Jun-16 20:54:28

There's no need to be rude. I don't know how the situation would be more suitable to a dog, or how I sound about 12. I'm just trying to express my thoughts about this

nectarini1983 Wed 29-Jun-16 20:55:52

Oh poor you. I think you have til they're 1 to change the name so maybe if you're really unhappy then make Louie a middle name and stick your preference in front as a new first name?

What name do your want for him?

Mummamayhem Wed 29-Jun-16 20:56:26

Well you do have until he's 12 months...

But are you sure? Is there something else bothering you and your focus on this is a distraction perhaps? I know I obsessed abut the spelling of my daughters name whilst suffering with PND/sleep deprivation and other life woes. Just a thought.

ReturnoftheWhack Wed 29-Jun-16 20:56:35

My sister randomly started calling her DS a different name when he was about 18 months old. She goes ballistic if we call him his actual name. Everyone thinks she's a lunatic because of it. Sorry xx

NotSoFancyHanky Wed 29-Jun-16 20:57:21

Friends changed their dd's name on her first birthday with a little announcement card. Everyone accepted name change immediately and parents delighted.

Pebbles1000 Wed 29-Jun-16 20:57:32

I'd love to name him Samuel

Imnotaslimjim Wed 29-Jun-16 20:58:06

It sounds like you felt bullied into using the name and have never felt settled with it.

What was the name you wanted? Would it work moving Louie as a middle name?

Kimononono Wed 29-Jun-16 20:58:14

Louie is lovely. My best friends son is called Louie and the children Ive thought who are named Louie have always been lovely.

Keep it.

nectarini1983 Wed 29-Jun-16 20:59:45

I agree with Mammamayhem...Are you focusing too much on this and not looking at the whole child? It's easily done once something is honed in on.

No child is born with a name...people just accept what the child's parents have decided to call them.

Cupoftchaiagain Wed 29-Jun-16 21:01:04

He's young enough to change it. Do it gradually as it will be confusing for him.

Pebbles1000 Wed 29-Jun-16 21:01:38

No, I always wanted him to be Samuel but I just wasn't allowed. Louie is nice but I wouldn't pick it. My partner said it would grow on me and it hasn't sad

LolaStarr Wed 29-Jun-16 21:02:59

NewStart that was a bit uncalled for hmm

OP what does your partner think about it? Would he be happy to go along with a name change? For what it's worth I think Louie is a lovely name

PippaFawcett Wed 29-Jun-16 21:03:53

Does your partner agree to the change? Could you use his middle name instead? If your partner agrees and you hate it, change it!

Scottishthreeberry16 Wed 29-Jun-16 21:05:40

Haven't read the whole thread. Name change formally to Samuel Louie. I think that sounds lovely

nectarini1983 Wed 29-Jun-16 21:08:12

Totally agree with Samuel Louie sounds lovely.

Lucked Wed 29-Jun-16 21:08:17

You could do it, people will get over it. To the wider group of people you know, like baby groups, you could lie and say that Samuel was his middle name and you are going to swap them.

To be fair to your son you are going to have to call him Samuel Louie for a while so that he recognises the name is connected with him and then gradually drop the Louie. A bit of a mouthful in public but it won't be for long.

NavyAndWhite Wed 29-Jun-16 21:10:08

Does your DH agree on changing it?

ProphetOfDoom Wed 29-Jun-16 21:12:58

Is your OH on board with the name change to Samuel (which will get shortened to Sam)? There's nothing to stop you if you're both agreed and resolute.

I have 3 dcs and I made a mistake with the naming of my DD so you have my sympathies.

Pebbles1000 Wed 29-Jun-16 21:13:31

He always claims that I chose the name, so that implies that he mustn't be that keen. He does keep saying it's going to grow to suit him but it doesn't sad

Lovepancakes Wed 29-Jun-16 21:16:22

Op I think you need to do something of really unhappy about it- I love Louie but that isn't the point. Can your partner understand that something needs to be done given you still aren't happy with his name? Does he really not like Samuel? (Also a lovely name imo).

It might not be worth much but I really feel for you as must be stressful not liking your little ones name when for us it was such an exciting moment

shinynewusername Wed 29-Jun-16 21:18:56

Why don't you just add Samuel as a middle name, then call him that? Lots of people are known by their middle names.

RandomMess Wed 29-Jun-16 21:20:06

My youngest is 11, I still don't like her name. I wish I hadn't agreed to it!!!

If you really don't like I would change it.

NavyAndWhite Wed 29-Jun-16 21:21:15

I agree, change it.

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