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Rosethenose Thu 02-Jun-16 11:33:24

I'm writing as I'm so upset about comments that have been made about my 11 week old daughters name. She is my first and every time someone says something like' you mean like the lager' or'really !? Stella?' It hurts so much. I feel so protective of her and I love her name. The comments weren't made by anyone close but by people at a wedding and a work colleague. I'm now really worried she's going to have negativity following her name in the future, makes me so sad and feel guilty that I've chosen it. sad

MissBattleaxe Thu 02-Jun-16 11:34:09

It's a beautiful name. It makes me think of stars in the sky.

whitehandledkitchenknife Thu 02-Jun-16 11:37:22

Stella is a beautiful name. It's from the Latin meaning star. (I'm sure that you know that). Tell her when she is big enough. She will be proud to have such a lovely name.
Just shows how ignorant some people are and don't realise it.

GinAndPhonics82 Thu 02-Jun-16 11:38:37

My grandmother is called Stella and I think it's a beautiful name. If I had had a girl, I would have named her Stella because it's such a pretty name. However, I have been blessed with three boys so never had the opportunity to use it smile

ThinkPinkStink Thu 02-Jun-16 11:39:05

It's a lovely name, it's on our shortlist for DD1 - due October. xx

Decanter Thu 02-Jun-16 11:41:28

Right, calm down. I have an almost 8 year old called Stella. I have heard the lager reference twice in her life. From the same person. And he needn't have said it, as I already knew he was a twat before then. Best name in the world grin

NapQueen Thu 02-Jun-16 11:41:44

Her name is beautiful. It's one I would consider using (also on that list Olive and Blythe and Kate) if I ever had more.

Says more about the person if the first thing that comes to their mind is alcohol.

ThroughThickAndThin01 Thu 02-Jun-16 11:42:44

Stella is lovely. I think it's a big name for a little baby, but she'll grow into it. Don't think about changing it!

Stella McCartney hasn't done too badly.

I think it's a similar name to Nancy and Tessa, I always think of those three names together.

NeedACleverNN Thu 02-Jun-16 11:43:03

Personally I'm not keen on the name.

However if that is what you like, good.

ThroughThickAndThin01 Thu 02-Jun-16 11:44:21

That's kind of you CleverNN hmm

Fiddlerontheroof Thu 02-Jun-16 11:46:30

I work in schools and I've come across this name a few times..not once have I ever associated it with fact whenever I hear it I think of stars in the sky...

Ignore them, they're idiots, it's a lovely name. How rude of them.

Nuggy2013 Thu 02-Jun-16 11:47:40

Your baby, your name choice.

Anyone who comments here a swift 'gonfuck yourself' and smile. It'll do wonders in relieving your upset!!!

Stella is a beautiful name by the way and on my list for DC2

Rosethenose Thu 02-Jun-16 12:38:30

Thank you for your kind messages bar one. It's made me feel much better. I know the people that commented are not the kind of people we'd ever choose to hang out with but I know she'll come across those types in life. I'm no good at biting back, wish I was and I'd put them in their place.

cosmicglittergirl Thu 02-Jun-16 12:41:49

It's a great name, cool and strong, but also pretty. Unfortunately you'll always get a twat along the way with something to say, ignore them or tell them to go fuck themselves!

wigglesrock Thu 02-Jun-16 13:29:10

I love love love the name Stella grin, dd3 was almost going to be called it, but she's a Disney princess instead <shrug>. People always say things about names. I've 3 daughters and have had comments along the lines of "oh she'll be one of hundreds", "why did you spell it that way?" and various Disney princess comments about each of them.

AddictedToCoYo Thu 02-Jun-16 13:30:15

I think it's a really lovely name and until I read your post I never even connected it to the lager.

KeyserSophie Thu 02-Jun-16 13:47:30

Replied to your other thread, but if their first association is "Stella Artois" that just shows they like crappy lager. Ignore.

My friend called her baby Margot, and someone said "As in Chateau?" Obviously a higher class of alkie grin

LadyAntonella Thu 02-Jun-16 14:08:45

It's a lovely name! I know a toddler Stella and it really suits her. It is definitely getting more popular (not so much that it's overused but definitely enough that people shouldn't be raising eyebrows at it twats).

BeckyWithTheMediocreHair Thu 02-Jun-16 14:30:10

It's a beautiful name. It's also closely related to a brand of lager for many, many people. You will get the odd comment, and so will she while she's growing up. But as her personality develops she will grow into her name and people will associate it more and more with her, and less with the beer.

Idoitforthelove Thu 02-Jun-16 16:38:21

I was in this situation a year ago, albeit with a different name.
It's the implied criticism that is the problem, not your daughter's name (which is beautiful, not that my - or anyone else's- opinion matters).
Do not listen to anyone who tries to tell you how to be a parent or what you should name your child. The only people who pass judgement on these kinds of things are people who are insecure in their own choices and decisions.
YOU are her mother. YOU know what's best for her. Sod everyone else flowers

WellErrr Thu 02-Jun-16 18:12:04

Wow OP, cheers for the abusive PM entitled 'you're a wanker.' Standing firm on the moral high ground there... wink

My point was that if you name a child something which is very synonymous with something else, in this instance a brand of notorious lager, surely you would have thought of this before, and been prepared for the odd smirk, no matter how much you like the name.

It probably won't be the last time it's mentioned, and taking massive offence and getting abusive probably isn't the way to go.

OnGoldenPond Thu 02-Jun-16 18:13:37

It is a lovely name.

A guy at work has a GF with this name. Unfortunately, when he kept saying "I love Stella " we thought he meant his beer! grin

OnGoldenPond Thu 02-Jun-16 18:17:14

Don't PM me, OP, I really don't appreciate that kind of language

Rosethenose Fri 03-Jun-16 09:59:24

I apologise for my hot headedness yesterday and calling you what I did. I don't really understand why you posted what you did. Especially to a new mother who is pretty tired and sensitive. I gues I need to toughen up so if I ever meet more folks like you I'm not so effected.
Please don't message me back

Winterdaisy Fri 03-Jun-16 18:28:36

To me Stella just means star, it's a nice name. Stella McCartney may pop into my head but that's it!
I'm not a larger drinker and don't associate with anyone who is so that brand would never be top of my thought process.
My own child has a name associated with a cat food. Nobody has ever mentioned it to my face. But when I picked it I was aware and it really doesn't bother me.
You need to relax it is a nice name just smile and ignore those who think larger rather than star, see it a a bit of a class test!

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