Hi all, im now 36+6 and DH and I have really avoided the name decision because we simply cannot agree. For many years my dh has wanted Mia and Thomas. I really dislike Mia for work reasons, I meet a lot of children. Thomas, I like though I am inclined to name him Tomas, as in the Irish spelling of it, as we are Irish. However dh's family just absolutely love to shorten names, and I am afraid if we named a boy Tomas, they would call him Tommy which I hate. And before anyone says, just correct them, they are not the sort of people who listen to corrections, everything is just made a laugh of.
Anyway, my dh then came up with a lot of very irish names for boys which I am not inclined to go with at all as I would prefer something Irish but well known so they don't spend their life correcting people. Then at the end of the summer he suggested his dad's first name. His dad is still alive. I don't really want this either because I want my child to have their own identity. His dad is quite well known for his opinionated nature and mannerisms and I just don't want a child to be lumbered with 'you're just like your grandfather.' Its a nice enough name, one I could live with also but I just don't love it.
I am set on two boys names that DH says he does not want. He told me last week that I could just decide since we are never going to agree. This was said in a genuine but disappointed way. I then asked him about his dad's name since he mentioned it again. It was only then that I elicited from him that he really wanted to name after his dad, that it meant a lot to him however I am not so sure I believe him on this especially since I more or less pushed him on why he was so set on naming after his dad. He didn't volunteer the information to me. I never really thought naming after his dad would mean a lot to him, so I was quite surprised at him telling me that it did mean a lot to him. They have a good enough relationship but they both drive each other crazy most of the time. To me I wonder if he only suggested his dad's name after I had vetoed his other suggestions during the summer.
The best bit is, we don't even know what we are having! Boy or girl! As for a girls name, I really don't love anything but my dh has a few suggestions I could be happy with.
My dh suggested last week too that I take the lead with girls names, and he do the boys but I would prefer to name a boy!
Help? Any suggestions? Should I just go ahead with his dad's name, also knowing that it will be abbreviated by his family which will drive me nuts. Also we can't really think of a good second name if we name after his dad, since my dad's name really doesn't go well with it.
This is super confusing and I am afraid this baby will be nameless for weeks!
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martie1 · 16/11/2014 14:06
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