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Butterfly82 Mon 13-Jan-14 21:45:48

I need some advise I wrongly was influenced on my babys name when she was born and called he Molly but 3 months on and I absolutely hate it it's the worse decision I have made I wanted Ella or Bella right from the start but my niece is called Ellie so felt Ella was to similar and our last name begins with a B should I change it or will I come to love the name Molly I can't even say the name so all I call her is princess or little lady.

sunwish Fri 24-Jan-14 00:36:37

I think if it was going to grow on you it would have started to by now. Three months in if you actually hate it I think you should definitely change it!

How about these:


Tabliope Thu 23-Jan-14 21:45:06

I also know of cousins Esther and Hester.

Tabliope Thu 23-Jan-14 21:43:51

I'd go with Ella too. It's what you love so why shouldn't you use it. You're not copying. I'd just say look I know this seems a bit odd but it's the name I really wanted. I fought it but she's just not a Molly to me and everything else is a compromise. Apart from meeting up as family the 6 year gap means they won't be together that much when they're older so will live separate lives largely with different friendship groups.

Years ago it was very common to name kids, especially boys, after family members so in large families you'd get the same name used a couple of times. We've got 2 Gordons, 3 variations of James, 2 Davids, 2 Michaels, 3 variations of Roberts, 4 variations of Elizabeth and 3 variations of Margaret in the family. No one has thought anything of it.

Apart from anything I think Ella is nicer. It seems a more complete name on its own to me whereas Ellie seems a shortening of a number of different names - Eleanor, Eloise, etc. When I hear Ella I think Ella Fitzgerald. It's a lovely name. What is your niece Ellie short for btw?

diddl Wed 22-Jan-14 11:05:10

I think that Molly is a lovely name.

But Ella is fabulous.

You must use it if you really want, not something with the nn Ella iyswim.

moggle Wed 22-Jan-14 10:46:55

Oh the only problem with Tom and Tom is that younger Tom gets called Baby Tommy even though he's 31 now... but that won't be a problem with your daughter as they are different names.

moggle Wed 22-Jan-14 10:44:21

My DH has a brother and a cousin called Tom (born to sisters), and I have two cousins called Richard (again born to sisters). The thing is that it seems massive that they have similar names now because you probably all spend a lot of time together as the kids are all small, but as they grow older they won't at all and you will wonder why you were so worried. In my family people were a bit surprised when the second Richard was named thus, but now it seems ridiculous - they live on different continents and probably only see each other once every few years.

Algorithm Tue 21-Jan-14 19:36:33

Do what you please - me and my DU (my DM brother) have directly the same name just the first initial is different and my DGM looked after me a lot as a child and he is a lot younger than my DM and still lived at home, so that was fun and as we're a small family it still is great fun at Xmas etc., and because we both have the same surname it can be funny if a call is received about one of us at my DGM house as she's slightly deaf now!

Honestly I don't mind having such a similar name to him and still see him at least once a month.

Also know sisters (year apart) called Shammy and Tammy and had twin boys in my younger sister's class called Hussein and Hassan.

Ella and Ellie really won't be that much of a problem :p

Mabelandrose Tue 21-Jan-14 08:56:47

I think you should go with Ella. It's clearly the only name you love. I really don't think it's a problem. Go with you heart this time.

Mrsindecision Mon 20-Jan-14 13:46:52

Ella and Ellie are different enough IMO - and it's not like they're siblings. I think Isabella is a great choice as it gives her lots of options for nicknames in the future. I am sure you're feel better once you've made your decision.

LongTailedTit Sun 19-Jan-14 21:43:48

I had a different first name until I was 1mo when DM changed it - and I'm glad she did! Don't worry, it seems like the right decision for you and her.

Also, I wouldn't worry too much about the similarity to cousin's name - DNephew has the exact same name as his cousin (BIL's nephew), same first name and same surname. It isn't a problem at all.

Having said that, I like the idea of a slightly longer name shortened to Ellie/Ella.

Ellie: Elinor, Elisabeth, Elise, Ellen, Eloise
Ella/Bella: Elena, Isabel, Annabel

newyearhere Sun 19-Jan-14 21:01:46

How about a name starting with El, that would give the nickname Ella?

Elsie, Elodie, Eleanor?

jamtoast12 Sun 19-Jan-14 20:59:54

Seriously you can't have Ella with an Ellie in the family, it's practically the same name! I'd find it very wierd. Bella is fine though.

AdoraBell Sun 19-Jan-14 20:48:19

A 6 year old can grasp the difference and will know that her little cousin Ella has a different Name. Don't worry what Anyone else says and as already suggested, don't tell Anyone úntil it's done.

Butterfly82 Sun 19-Jan-14 20:12:43

She is 6 so a bit of a gap I think if it was my sister i wouldn't be worried my Dh said he doesn't care what they say it's different and if we choose Isabella then they won't have same initials your all right I am over thinking it just wish I chose it from the first day.

MrsRV Sun 19-Jan-14 20:10:52

I agree with AdoraBell... different because of the end sound.

MyNameIsKenAdams Sun 19-Jan-14 19:29:40

Well if the ILs wanted Ella they would have used it. They chose Ellie which is different enough!

Just go for Ella

AdoraBell Sun 19-Jan-14 19:26:26

I think Ella is sufficiently different To Ellie because of the end sounds. If it where , fe, Ellie and Nelly I think that would be confusing.

How much older is Ellie than your DD? If it's only a couple of weeks then I can kind of understand people being a bithmm, even though it's none of their business, really.

I'm glad you've decided To do something positivesmile.

BouncingJellyfish Sun 19-Jan-14 19:23:02

I have a pair of first cousins with the same name. My aunts are close and neither of them were bothered. Not exactly the same name but one is Alex and the other Alexander. Both get called Alex. If she really feels like an Ella go for it.

MrsRV Sun 19-Jan-14 19:15:59

could you have Ella-Rose or something like that to make it sound a bit different...? but I still maintain that Ella and Ellie and even Elle are completely different names. Have Ella.

Theonlyoneiknow Sun 19-Jan-14 18:53:45

No one has the right to a name. If you love Ella then go for it x

Butterfly82 Sun 19-Jan-14 18:45:54

Your probably right nikki1391 but one of my main problems with the name Molly is that everyone takes it upon themselves to call her moll and I absolutely hate it I must have corrected about 10 people already that's not her name and she isn't 4 months old yet. Molly is a sweet name but she just isn't a Molly to me and if I don't change it I will regret it I don't want to miss my chance. She would have been ella all along if her cousin wasn't called ellie that is where my problem is I don't want to fall out with the in laws

nikki1391 Sun 19-Jan-14 15:21:34

My daughters name is Alyssa (a-liss-ah) when we registered her I felt pressured to pick a name as OH hated pretty much every name except for 2 which I didn't like at all. I pretty much chose a name on the way to the registry office. At the time the name didn't suit her at all and oh hated it, my mum also hated it. I bearly even said her name and thought about changing it to Ava. She's 3 years old now and I'm glad I didn't change it. The name really suits her and we all have no problem with it at all, we alternate between calling her Alyssa and her nickname Aly x

Puddles1234 Wed 15-Jan-14 14:13:44

Good Luck Butterfly82 You should definitely change your daughters name. I completely sympathise with you, me and my husband are currently deciding upon a name and it's the most difficult decision and so many people love to give their opinion which makes it harder.

CarlaVeloso Wed 15-Jan-14 14:03:53

Good for you! Take your time, no rush. It's much less of a big deal than it probably feels to you.

Naming babies can be so hard.

Bugabooed Wed 15-Jan-14 08:49:50

Well done - you'll feel much better once you've changed it. Go with your heart and choose the name you and your dh love the most, don't let others opinions sway you.

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