How popular is TOO popular?(59 Posts)
I'm 30 weeks pregnant with my first baby (a girl) and DH and I are just getting round to the name talk. We are finding it quite difficult to agree on anything, but have both liked several names that turn out to be in the top 100 (Scotland). Obviously going for number 1 means she is likely to know/ go to school with others with the same name and we would like to avoid that but what if the name was at 35? 70? At what stage does it become TOO popular?
Avoid the top 100 - there are lots and lots of lovely underused classics that aren't too trendy at the moment.
bananahammocks has hit the nail on the head here
"The problem is names that I like that are not popular are often not popular for a reason and as my child is going to have to live with the name not me I think I do have to consider other people opinions. I'm finding it really hard to find a balance!"
Ds' name is top 10 I think, and I love it. And so far I've yet to meet another boy the same age with it too. I do work in a school and it is popular name though. It doesn't bother me one bit, but then again I'm not particularly fond of really unusual names.
I agree with many of the previous posters, choose a name you love rather than worry about its popularity. My dd has a name that was outside the top 500 for the year she was born and there is another in her class at school (plus I also have come across at least 2 others of a similar age). Fortunately we chose the name because we loved it so it doesn't bother us at all. Also, rather bizarrely, 3 girls that my dd does a sports class with share a name that was ranked just below number 700 for their year of birth (they were all born in the same school year). You really just cannot tell!
My criteria when choosing names was does the name work for them in whatever profession they choose to do and not be too tied into an era. As someone with a very 70/80's name and not used now it was important that their names didn't tie them to an era.
My DD's names have been top 5 for most of their lives, DS has a name that skirts the top 10.
None of them have names that they have been more than the only one of the year (apart from a few months at nursery when DS was one of 3). Other names that you would say are less popular are everywhere. At the risk of outing me DS has 2 girls of a name that hasn't really been popular since the 90's in his class.
I think you just have to choose something you like, although saying that, I've just checked and DD's name is just indie the top 2000. Uncommon but spell able we're our key criteria.
Out of interest, how do you find out how many babies we're born with a particular name in a particular year?
I agree, something you like. DS1 had a Top5 name at birth. Now it it is under the 50 mark! Popularity fluctuates, how much you like the name shouldn't iyswim.
I have a Jack - I knew he would be one of several but it just suited him so we went for it.
I think locality has a part to play as well - If he had been a girl he would have been Eva (shortened to Evie) which I would have thought would have been the same scenario but there are no Evies in his school.
There are, however, 3 Destinys and two Trinitys :D
Can you guess the kind of area I live in?
One of my DDs was, unbeknownst to me, No 1 and had been in the top 5 for a good while, and still is, 15 years later. It turned out to be a blessing as this particular DD stands out for her flaming red curly hair and pale complexion, big blue eyes. She is also very shy and overthinks everything. Giving her one of the names I was considering - a lot of them were way out - would have made her stand out even more. She ended up as one of two with her name in her class. She is also known as one of the four redheads in her class.
One of the names was Clementine, which would have been ridiculous with the red hair.
Two other DDs were the only one in school with their name. They complained occasionally.
Last DD has a very unusual name, but we met the only other one we've ever run across on her first day in kindergarten, so she too was one of two in her class.
My dd's name is in the 1000s and I have met 3 since she was born!
My other children's names were in the 40s when they were named, but have all shot up the charts since - and are very popular now. I haven't met many others with the same names though. I think the parents in my area all strive for unusual names, so you are more likely to be unique here if you name your child Jack or Emily.
I never even looked at the top 10,20 or whatever. I went with what we liked. It turns out that both second names are popular but first names are classic and traditional.
One thing to consider is that there are a wider variation of names used now. Top 10 names indicate the most popular names but those names are given to fewer children than in, say, the 70s.
My DD1 has a top ten name and she's the only one in her year group of 90.
I nearly didn't use our first choice name (Grace) for our eldest due to popularity, I think it ended up being the number 8 name that year. We didn't like any of the other names quite as much though so went for it and I am so glad we did. I have a feeling if we had gone for something different it would have always bugged me that the name wasn't my first choice.
it seems that every other girl born in the late 70s was called Clare and it's never really bothered me.
Anything in the top 50 would be too risky for me, but I always felt quite strongly that I wanted the DCs names to be reasonably unusual and unused. None of mine even appeared in the top 100 when I chose them although one of them did go on to to be in the top 10 about 10 years later, for about three years then dropped back down again.
My name was the top five for the year I was born, I have met one other person with my name and there is one celebrity that has it.That's it.I don't know where everyone else is!
Pick what you love,first and foremost the thought of worrying if its in the top 100 as a basis to select a name will be depressing and hard.
As so many have said, pick a name you love and don't worry about popularity. I teach a class with 3 Libbies in it, and another with 4 Nicoles - not being top ten/50 is no guarantee of being the only one in the class. I also loved having friends with the same name as me when I was little.
It depends. Some parents look for rare and unique baby names that can't be found anywhere close to the top 1000. Others might found the same names a bit strange. That's why most parents opt-in for what we call a "safe choice". Others pass the name to their grandchildren as part of tradition, so in this case, it doesn't really matter if they are popular or not.
All things equal, I would suggest you follow your heart and instincts in choosing the name of your baby. You can browse around the internet to find some lists for popular baby names predictions in 2014 and decide if you want to pick one of them. Alternatively, you will have to do some further research and dig into history and archives to find a more uncommon name.
Hope it helps,
I think you need to bear in mind that names aren't evenly distributed.
I know a class with not one Olivia (the top name that year I think), Grace or Ruby, but three Alice's. Likewise I have a rare name and once shared a class with another of my name.
If you genuinely want a low-ish chance of others with the name, I think you have to avoid at least the top 100.
And it's not actually a disaster if you have somebody in your class with the same name- it really isn't. My ds was absolutely delighted when he met another "him"!
I don't remember being overly bothered either
Speaking as a Holly (#13 year I was born, in top 20-30 ever since) I think you can go up to top 15 and not have much bother. If it's not a name you LOVE though, don't go beyond 30.
I went for names which were between 50 -100 - and they both shot up in popularity. One is now in top 10.
It depends whether you mind your DC being known as "Sarah L" Or "Sam D" rather than just Sarah or Sam.
If I were naming a child again, I'd be looking outside the top 100.
If you look on the General Registrars or Scotland website, you can download a list by what council are a you live in. Don't have link, sorry, just google it.
Having said that - Hugo shot in to the charts at 88 this year, and will probably become more popular...I love the name Hugo, and would still use it.
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