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He didn't like a single bloody one!

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JessicaRRRabbit Sat 21-Sep-13 14:16:12

DH has written off my lists. Entirely. We're not expecting DC2 for several months yet but now I'm worried we won't agree on anything. Please give me your opinions (and tell me he's off his rocker not to like them!)

DS has a traditional name that always gets lovely comments but I'm not particularly bothered about DC2's having traditional or modern: DH wants more traditional but could be talked round with the right name I think. It just has to be a fantastic name, preferably not top 100 and fit with the surname G r a n g e r. TIA smile

My lists:



DH's lists:

Alexander (actually really like but will have the -er sound at the end of both names!)
Matthew (meh)

Helena (as Alexander)
Ophelia (beautiful name but can't like it for DC2 for some reason! Also an -er name)
Viola ('Vile-a'? - beautiful name but again not too sure. Also an -er name)
And yes DH is a Shakespeare nut!

Jewelledkaleidoscope Sat 21-Sep-13 14:30:07

I like Viola.

Point out to DH that you have several Shakespeare names on your lists too?

AlansCatalanCat Sat 21-Sep-13 14:32:34

What about Rosalind, wouldn't he go for that?
Although Rosaline is Shakespearian too IIRC, isn't she Romeo's first crush?

UpTheFRIGGinDuff Sat 21-Sep-13 14:41:22


CarriMarie Sat 21-Sep-13 14:44:18

I like Jonathan, Marcus and Matthew or Annabel, Juliet and Helena.

JessicaRRRabbit Sat 21-Sep-13 15:12:35

So no-one else so far thinks the -er sound at the end of both names merits a veto then? Interesting...

Jewelled and Alan DH knows I've included Shakespearian names but still immediately vetoed hmm .

I've tried to explain why I'm vetoing so we can come up with new ideas but am just getting 'I don't like it' from DH. We wouldn't be going round in circles so much if he told me why he didn't angry grin

Lol at FRIGGin - Hermione would've been a contender if not for HP!

bananamummy Sat 21-Sep-13 15:23:05

Love your lists, in fact our childrens' names are all on your lists (although we have a Quentin rather than Quinton). Love your names much more than your DH's smile, although Helena is very nice too.

rachel234 Sat 21-Sep-13 15:36:18

I like most of the names on your lists (except for Matthew/Matt). My favourites are
Quinton (also prefer Quentin)

exoticfruits Sat 21-Sep-13 15:50:09

Jonathan, Nicholas, Matthew,Juliet,Helena all lovely.

Sparkeleigh Sat 21-Sep-13 16:09:53

I like both Helena and Viola, but I think I'd pronounce them differently..

Helena would be either He-lane-a or Helen-ah..

Viola would be Vi-o-la like the flower.

That way neither of them would end in an -er sound... Maybe it's a difference in accents though.

AlansCatalanCat Sat 21-Sep-13 16:21:05

I don't think an -er or -a ending should be ruled automatically. It depends on the overall sound. For instance, I prefer Julia to Juliet and I think that sounds fine with your surname.

JessicaRRRabbit Sat 21-Sep-13 19:39:11

Bump for the evening crowd.

runninggirl85 Sat 21-Sep-13 20:51:11

My dc will have the same surname :-)

No name ideas yet though..going to wait to start thinking until i know the sex.

Quinton is a good name :-)

Oubliette0292 Sat 21-Sep-13 21:26:26

I really like Marianne and Rosaline from your list (isn't there a Rosalind somewhere in Shakespere?). How about Octavia (Quite similar to Ophelia)?

I like Patrick and Jonathan from your boys list (quite like Quintin too). Does he want a Shakespearian boys name too (if so I quite like Duncan)?

BlueChampagne Sat 21-Sep-13 21:34:55

I don't think the -er thing is a particularly big deal. Thinking about it, it's rather nice. Love Alexander; Alasdair is Scottish equivalent if it helps. Helena is fab too. Would avoid Viola because do vile. How about:



AurorasShoes Sun 22-Sep-13 00:54:46

I like Alexander and don't think the double 'er' is too much.
Girls' names:
Cecile (I also like Celia, Cecilia and Cecily)
Rosaline (although do prefer Rosalind for some reason)

mathanxiety Sun 22-Sep-13 07:15:57

Well he can't just veto after you've put your heart into choosing selections. That is a mug's game for you to play.

What you need to do is both of you write a list of 20 bona fide names, maybe 10 each boy and girl names. No ridiculous/outlandish names. This means nothing like Journey, Dave, Chardonnay, Echo...

Then each gets to strike two or three names off the other's list, no questions asked.

At that point you discuss the remaining names in good faith. Don't forget middle names.

DonkeysDontRideBicycles Sun 22-Sep-13 17:56:42

Claudius and Gertrude. Push for those and he might reconsider your list HTH.

JessicaRRRabbit Sun 22-Sep-13 21:58:44

Thanks for your thoughts everyone - much appreciated thanks

Also for your suggestions - some lovely ideas:

For those who prefer Quentin, I was the other way round and just preferred the sound of Quinton with our surname - different strokes I suppose smile

Oubliette Yy there is a Rosalind too - def prefer Rosaline though. I like how the long 'I' sound at the end makes it a 'softer' name iyswim? In the same line of thought, I would veto Octavia and Duncan because they sound harsh to me. Just mentioned the name to DH and he vetoed because 'it sounds like octopus.' hmm And grin because he's actually given a reason for vetoing!

Miranda - mutually vetoed due to the marmite comedienne.
Meredith - On The List - score!
Meryl - It seems too old a name to me; DH - a flat out no go.
Corinna - Corinne was on my long list but DH hate hate hates both names confused
Conrad - As Meryl
Lysander - I love it - DH worried it's too unusual
Corin - As Corinna
Torin - On The List

Donkeys I tried Claudius and Gertrude out on DH for the crack and pmsl when he started and spluttered at Claudius, which is an 'old man's name' apparently. Gertrude he liked but thankfully vetoed because other kids would call her Dirty Gerty grin Off to try Pyramus and Thisbe...

Blimey - what a long post! Please keep the suggestions coming - we have two more names already! thanks again everyone.

wiltingfast Sun 22-Sep-13 22:08:32




DonkeysDontRideBicycles Sun 22-Sep-13 22:13:52

grin Pyramus and Thisbe were my next suggestions!

Of the genuine ideas given I like Torin and from your list, Marianne.

(I was going to put forward Marina but I guess you won'tlike it paired with your surname).

Vijac Sun 22-Sep-13 22:14:47

My favourites are Alexander, Annabelle and Juliette. I don't think the er thing really matters, yes it doesn't sound like a perfect match but it is not bad in any way either.

ShowOfHands Sun 22-Sep-13 22:21:25

Josephine goes very well with your surname plus it's a classic name, not massively popular and has lots of lovely shortenings- Josie, Jo, Sephie, Phin etc

If DS had been a DD, he'd have been a Josephine.

mathanxiety Mon 23-Sep-13 05:57:37

I would pronounce Rosaline as Rosaleen, never with a long I at the end. As in Josephine..

How does Torin make a list but Meryl and Conrad don't because they are too unusual??

JessicaRRRabbit Mon 23-Sep-13 20:37:41

Oh thanks Show I love Josephine/Josie but it was a real lemon for DH - if we went for math's veto system it'd be bottom three for sure. sad

Sparkle and math we just go with the pronunciations we grew up with iyswim. We grew up on opposite sides of the country but we've never had quibbles on how the names we've discussed should be pronounced.: the -a in Helena in both our accents sounds like -er not -ah and when we each read R&J at school we were both taught the pronunciation Roz-a-line.

As I wrote upthread math, Meryl and Conrad sound old to me - not unusual - too middle aged. Torin I love because it sounds youthful and is ancient at the same time. Does that explain it? smile

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