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Would it really be that wrong if my kids (boy & girl) ended up with the same initials?

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lifeislikeaboxofchoccies Mon 02-Sep-13 09:59:13

So, we have finally decided on a name for our girl (due shortly) but have realised that she will be sharing the exact same initials, including middle, as our son! This is in no way intentional and I would rather they didn't, but this is the only girls name we agree on and both like. Should we try and find a completely different name which we won't like as much just for the sake of her not sharing the same initials, or just go with it? What do you think?

DonkeysDontRideBicycles Mon 02-Sep-13 11:07:52

My DH and DS have the same first and last initials but different middle names and that's occasionally muddly. I guess a Miss and Master XYZ would be less likely to have mail confused but with all the names in the world to choose from I'd pick a different middle initial.

adagio Mon 02-Sep-13 11:16:02

My mum deliberately made sure us three as kids shared a middle initial so she got one set of name tags for our clothes with all the initials and did careful folding to get rid of the unwanted sibling initial before sewing them on.

That doesn't really help does it?!

Personally I don't see a huge issue, but if the middle name is more of a filler rather than an absolute favourite is there anything else you could use in the middle?

sleepcrisis Mon 02-Sep-13 11:38:29

I have the same initials as my brother. Once (and only once) there was a mix up at the bank when he was at uni and I was a teenager, I received £1000 in my account and he had to starve for a week! other than that, it's never really occurred to me to have been an issue. And yes re name tags. - mum only ever had to buy one set and then reused them!

NoComet Mon 02-Sep-13 11:42:39

DSIs and I share the same first (but not middle initial) I think I might once have opened her bank statement as a teen, but it really isn't a problem.

LillyNotOfTheValley Mon 02-Sep-13 11:51:26

It will be fine.
Mail is not much of a problem: 1) they will state "Mr" and "Ms" XY; 2) everything tends to come through email nowadays and is likely to continue (including bank statements).
My DS and DD have the same initials (except mn), I have never had an issue with it but they are still small. If you love the name, go for it!

Sunnysummer Mon 02-Sep-13 11:54:19

I'd change the middle name or even add a middle name - but if you really don't want to, it's certainly not the end of the world!

GwendolineMaryLacey Mon 02-Sep-13 11:56:06

No, not an issue at all.

dyslexicdespot Mon 02-Sep-13 11:56:57

I share initials with all of my siblings. It has become a problem only because one of my brothers works in the same field as I do. People constantly confuse us, or think we are married.

lifeislikeaboxofchoccies Mon 02-Sep-13 12:37:53

Thanks all for your comments smile The middle name is my mother's name, whereas my son has my husband's father's name as a middle name, they just happen to start with the same letter. I really would like to use it as my mum means a lot to me and it's a lovely name. So it's kind of that name or no name if that makes sense. I think we'll just have to go with it, it's not ideal but at the same time, I don't suppose it really matters too much. My husband thinks it's rather cute, he can't see a problem with it at all. Just me that's over thinking the whole thing!

dyslexicdespot Mon 02-Sep-13 12:41:32

Go with the names you want! It is annoying to occasionally have my work attributed to my brother, but it really isn't the end of the world!

soontobeslendergirl Mon 02-Sep-13 15:00:13

It wil be fine, how muh actual mail do we get nowadays? mainly birthday cards and such like in our house - all bills and bank statements are on-line. It will be even less when they are grown up, so unless they are also sharing a birthday then go for it.

zipzap Mon 02-Sep-13 15:02:52

Could you give her an extra middle name - not ideal as your ds doesn't have one too but then at least they will be Master ABC and Miss ABZC? Or Miss AZBC?

ouryve Mon 02-Sep-13 15:04:11

Mine have the same first initial, but different middle initial. It's only confusing when we get the many letters from the NHS addressed to Master [first initial] [surname] - we don't know which one its addressed to until we open the envelope.

pastelsarewrong Mon 02-Sep-13 15:09:16

I have the same initials as my sister and it's caused mix-ups with the bank. She also some problems with debt years ago, when we both lived with our parents, and that meant I got turned down for credit. She's also accidentally opened some personal mail addressed to me (regarding medical issues I wanted to keep confidential) as it just had initials and last name. She is married now and we live in our own homes, so not a problem any more!

MultipleMama Tue 03-Sep-13 23:43:34

One of my twins is named after DH so they have same initials but we're not concerned about it.

rockstars12 Wed 04-Sep-13 15:21:21

Go with what names you like most. But, just be aware there may be some confusion whilst you still live under one roof. The bank get confused all the time with my family, which leads me to think, they should just not all bank with the same company, but hey ho. My mum and brother are R.C.B and C.R.B respectively and different genders, and yet the bank get them muddled.
Even worse is my youngest brother and dad have exactly the same name. That is just impossible for the bank, my bro ends up with access to my dads account whilst my dad gets barred. Even adding Jr and Snr at the end of their names didn't stop the problems.
Going on a family holiday was even more entertaining, my dad and younger brother went through the same person at passport control in Malaysia, stupidly followed by my oldest bro who has their same first name as his middle name...

devonsmummy Sun 08-Sep-13 22:56:54

I have a boy & girl with same initials of first & middle names
Like you my dd's middle name is after my mum.
We've had no problems ...yet!

MiaowTheCat Mon 09-Sep-13 08:27:35

I refused to even entertain sharing the first name initial with my two. I share first initials with my brother and I have a mum with, shall we say "boundary issues" who delights in doing things like opening any of my post that goes to her house. The number of times she "accidentally" opened stuff for me under the pretext of "oh I thought it was for your brother as it just said J.Smith on it and he LIKES me to open his post for him" (which is total bullshit but another story) had turned me right off wanting them to share an initial! Didn't even want them to share an initial with me or DH for the same reason - yes the post issue has bugged me that much over the years!

PeacockPlumage Mon 09-Sep-13 08:34:27

I don'r think it's ideal, but not bad enough to miss using a name you love over. They will live apart longer than tgey'll live together wrt post etc. I would think school lists would be harder but not insurmountable.

I'm sure I could advise better if you told us the names grin....<nosy>

ringaringarosy Mon 09-Sep-13 09:43:42

i dont think ive ever had a letter with just my initial on? its always first full name.

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