How do you introduce your dc if you use a diminutive of their name? And did the diminutive change as your child grew old enough to voice an opinion?(30 Posts)
Do use their full name or the name they are called in everyday life?
We are thinking of using Edward in the birth certificate and then Ted. So two questions:
1. How did you introduce them? (Edward or Ted in this case)
2. We will use Ted but its very possible that in later life he wouldn't want to be known as Ted. Has this happened to you? Did you start calling him something else that he choose (eg Ed) or do you always call him the diminutive that you chose and its just his peers who use his new choice?
Ds1 (7) is Alexander and we always introduce him as such, but we've always called him Xander within the family. When people have asked 'do you call him Alex?' or 'do you like Alex?' we've always said we prefer Alexander in full or Xander for short, never Alex. As a result all the grownups he knows call him his full name. However most of his friends at school call him Alex which I hate but have had to accept - they're his relationships, not mine, and he's happy for them to use it. But in the past month or so he's taken to asking us to call him Alexander in full at home too. I find it very upsetting tbh, because inside my heart he will always be my Xander. So I try my best to do as he wants, but my default setting is Xander and it's a very hard habit to break!
ds2 uses his diminutive version, we always called him both, used full version when he started school but as there was two we told then what he was also called and it stuck.
although he is now saying he wants to be known as his full name and tells people not to use the diminutive version.. except he is allowed to use it him self when writing as shorter! hes in yr 2 and if hecan do less writing he will, so although he doesnt want to be called his shorter version he will use it to his advantage
My DD is always called by a diminutive of her name, but it is a name that people often get wrong as it sounds very similar to another name. So I say (for example, this is not the name!) "her name is Florence but we call her Flossie".
I am trying to get her used to her 'proper' name as I think I'd rather she use it at school (and because I think she'll get sick of correcting people who mishear her nickname).
Two of mine are called by a diminutive and are introduced as that. In both cases, they've actually shortened the diminutive themselves, IYSWIM - say from Frederick to Freddie to Fred. We stick with the Freddie version (not actual name), they are known as Fred by mates.
In fact all mine have nick names that get used all the time by the wider family and in front of friends
Elizabeth, known by family as buffy always was introduced as buffy, now called Lizzie by her friends.
We still usually call her Buff - old habits die hard
She seems to answer to any of the above!
My DS (4) is officially an Edward but I don't think anyone even realises that - he's 100% Ted, always introduced as Ted.
It's a great name
Our little man is Jacob and we use JayJay a lot, I introduce him as both really and he does reply to both. His dad uses Coby a lot which I never knew was a nickname for Jacob but it is in baby name books.
All three of my DS's are known by the shortened version of their name, and that's how they are introduced.
For official forms we would write out their full names but on some forms eg school forms, or forms for out of school clubs etc, would put in brackets what they are known as eg Edward James Brown (known as Teddy)
When my two were small I tended to introduce them by their full names, and at school etc that's what they were known as. As they have got older we tend to only really call dd by the short form of her name (or variations of), whereas ds gets all forms of his name They introduce themselves using their short forms. I don't really like the short forms on official stuff (school reports etc) as it feels very informal to me, but it's not really a big deal.
My close family tend to call me (and probably introduce me to others) by a short form that I don't use otherwise anymore (and haven't for about 20 years). So it's a bit odd when people I don't know very well use it.
I have an Amelia who is Millie at home but Amelia at school, an older ds who goes by his full name and a younger ds who thinks his name is bear as we use it more than his actual name ( which we love and bear is a derivative of)
I have an Edward who we call teddy or ted. I always introduce him as teddy. When he was born we announced Edward x x (teddy)
He's at school now. He knows he has a 'long' name of Edward but insists on being called teddy. He is teddy to his teachers, on his books etc.
Both DS1 and DD use the shortened versions of their name, and that's how I introduce them. I've started using their full names more since DS2 came along, otherwise all 3 of them have 2 syllable names ending in 'y'.
They're only 4 and 2, so it's a bit early to know whether they will want to use their full names when they're older. I think I'll always use the names I call them now, even if nobody else does.
2yo DD is Imogen. She's called Bean by pretty much everyone except her doctor.
I'm pretty sure she doesn't realise she has a name other than Bean or Small Fry!
I really want to call DD a diminutive of her name but, I just can't seem to stop using the full version. She is 15 months and I use the diminutive in texts at times but never when saying her name.
Ds has always been called by the shortened versiOn of his name. When he started school the Reception teacher asked me how I wanted his stuff labelled as this would also be the name he'd be taught to write. I chose the shortened version as it was really all he'd ever known.
He's now in year 1 and his stuff is labelled with his full name (no idea why they changed it) but he does now know how to spell both names, and answers to both. There's really only one nickname for his name though, and I guess he's always been known by his nn so his friends will grow up calling him that.
Weirdly, my Ds1 has a full name with a very obvious nickname that no one has ever used except me! None of his friends have ever shortened his name!
Love Edward (and Ted as nn)
My DS is Laurie and some people initially look a bit before I explain its short for Laurence! He's always called by his nn at the moment but the option is there if he chooses to use his full name
when he's a high court judge
DD is Alexandria. I do sometimes introduce her as Alexandria because it's not the name she actually gets called, so I like to give it an airing occasionally! But she is Alex, and most of the time she is introduced as Alex - especially now she looks unequivocally like a girl. When she was a baby I used to get enormous pleasure out out of replying "Alex" when people asked her name, knowing full well they were trying to politely ask if she was a girl or a boy
DS2 is Raphael on his birth certifucate but we have always called him Rafe. I doubt most people know his full name tbh and at 3 I'm not sure he does! DS1 is Fabian and is known as that or Fabes or Fabie.
<btw, i'm incredibly jealous you are using edward and ted - i love them both but df knows one of each and it'd just be odd if we'd used it. Such gorgeous lovely names both of them >
I have a longer name on my birth certificate, and I have always been known by my diminutive. I hate being called by my proper name as the only time I ever heard my parents say it was when I was being told off.
I must say I hate having a different name on my birth certificate. For example, at school and uni as my name was down on the register in full, I felt like I was constantly having to correct teachers with "please call me xxx instead". Also I get awfully confused when filling out forms/registering with utilities/various other admin type stuff, because I never know whether I should be giving my proper name or even whether it matters. It just all seems like such a faff when I'd never bother with the full name in real life anyway....because it's just not 'my' name.
I introduce dd by her name as even though family and friends call her a diffrrent name it's not appropriate for school/doctors etc.
Ds is known as a shortened version of his name most of the time by everyone - hv etc call him full name but i mention they can use short name and they do.
Not much help am i?!
A friend's dad once told me that the best name for your child should have a standard version, a diminutive and a derivative. Excellent advice.
So, Edward, Ted, Ed
I'd introduce my daughter by the name I expected people to call her.
I would assume that you would do what an adult would do - introduce yourself or your child by the name you expect the person to use.
DS is an Edward - we introduce him as Teddy and we call him Teddy or Ted. In fact he was surprised to learn that he had a 'grown up' name when he started school and the teacher called him Edward!!! Now even the teachers call him Teddy.
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