Dh and I have a dilemma and I wondered what people think we should do...
We have some very close and very lovely friends. We and they both have one dd. before they were born, we discussed possible names, realised we both liked the same/similar names and agreed that we would each choose the name we loved, regardless or which baby arrived first, even if the other had chosen the same name. The littles ones arrived and we chose different names (partly, in our case at least, and I suspect on their's too, to avoid treading in the others' toes!). In the course of our conversations, we also discussed boys names, though we both turned out to be expecting girls.
Fast forward to now, we are expecting dc2, who is a little boy. We are really struggling to choose a name and dh has fallen in love with a name that I know, from before, that our friends really like(d). They are not expecting, but do plan more children in future, who may, or may not, turn out to include a boy.
What should we do? Avoid the name to leave it 'available' for them in case they ever want to use it? Go ahead as they may not ever need it/may have changed their mind by then?
If we speak to them about it I am absolutely certain that they would tell us not to worry about them and to use the name if we want to, because that's the kind of lovely people they are. They would say it (and mean it) even if it meant they felt they could never then use the name themselves, as indeed we would do for them if the roles were reversed. I just don't know if, as a good friend, I should not even consider putting them in that position.
Apologies for the essay!! Mn jury, what do you think??
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MightBeMad · 28/03/2013 09:43
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