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Why is a boys name really easy for us but girls so hard?

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badguider Wed 20-Mar-13 09:41:56

DH and I settled on a boys name in about 0.1 seconds: Calum. We both love it, thought we haven't considered the Calum or Callum question yet.

But girls seem to be beyond us (is this an omen that we're having a boy?). Out of the top scottish girls names we like:
Cara / Kara

But we don't love any of them half as much as Calum. I think Rhona and Cara are the lead contenders but WHY can we just not pick one? Is it because we (I) subconsciously picture this baby as a boy? Will it all become easier if we find out it's a girl at the 20wk scan?

EverythingIsTicketyBoo Wed 20-Mar-13 09:48:53

Ooh badguider not only do we have EXACTLY the same problem, you have picked the same name as one of my DS's smile I am pg with dc3 and have a little list of boys names (they are also Scottish choices too) and I love the list. I have a clear front runner (also with spelling tbc) but the girls list I keep changing my mind on, I like the names on the list but don't love any of them yet hmm

Good luck, I will be reading this thread with great interest!!

EverythingIsTicketyBoo Wed 20-Mar-13 09:50:25

Suppose I ought to say, 34 weeks here so I'm feeling the pressure a lot bit grin

wigglesrock Wed 20-Mar-13 09:50:36

I was the opposite smile I could never pick a boys name - just as well I had 3 girlswink I really like Cara from your list.

FriggFRIGG Wed 20-Mar-13 10:10:45

I have the oppisite problem.
I could name a hundred girls,but I really struggle with boys names...

soontobeslendergirl Wed 20-Mar-13 10:11:08

Hmm we had girls names but couldn't pick a boys - loved Callum but that's my nephew - lots of the names we liked had already been used by my older siblings or my OHs - that's what we get for being the youngest and leaving babies later!!

For girls we liked Mairi or Kirsty (OH loved Jenna but it's not good with our surname!)

I also like Shona at the moment - not having any more btw.

Other girls:


badguider Wed 20-Mar-13 10:14:57

I love Mairi but our best friends' daughter is mari.
I also like shona but think i prefer rhona.

Rowan i like, but i've got a good friend called that and it would be like calling her after that Rowan. Friend Rowan has a feminine middle name she has to use a lot as people assume she's a man (not necessarily a bad thing).

One of your names soontobe is mine grin

everything - any girls names on your list you feel like sharing???

soontobeslendergirl Wed 20-Mar-13 10:16:20

btw we had really settled on Mairi for a girl but we knew I think that it wasn't going to be that simple and were sure both ours were boys - which they were. No1 son was 3 days waiting on a name after he was born - No2 son was a week and a half.

soontobeslendergirl Wed 20-Mar-13 10:18:44

Rhona is very underused - it's a lovely name and you can't date it at all. I prefer it to all the Islas and Skyes around too.

soontobeslendergirl Wed 20-Mar-13 10:33:11


soontobeslendergirl Wed 20-Mar-13 10:39:11


Another Fav - Lorna


peanutMD Wed 20-Mar-13 10:46:29

I had this with my first pregnancy, we had a boys name v.early on and never quite got there with a girls name.

We now have a 6yo DS.

I did the same with my second pregnancy but in reverse.

We now have a 2 week old DD, who is incidently called Cara grin

I think its instinct!

peanutMD Wed 20-Mar-13 10:50:15

BTW I could be wrong but I'm pretty sure Cara is Irish, it means friend.

We are Scottish but I have Irish roots.

badguider Wed 20-Mar-13 10:51:55

Cara is maybe more irish than scottish but it usually comes up as just 'celtic' when you search... good enough for me smile
But Rhona sounds better with our surname (i think).

soontobeslendergirl Wed 20-Mar-13 10:53:00

Peanut OH and I obviously lacking any instinct whatsoever smile - we did "know" that we were having boys I think - that's why we couldn't think names! - It's easier to make a decision on something that you you is not going to happen grin

We did have some boys "on the list" but knew that none of them were really what we wanted and all were unusable when faced with an actual real baby.

Gwennan Wed 20-Mar-13 12:32:39

How about Ailsa? Elspeth? Iona?

EverythingIsTicketyBoo Wed 20-Mar-13 13:29:37

We have
Iona (I'm struggling with the I own her thing though),
Ellena (I like it but don't love it),
Isla (too popular),
Amelia (doesn't go with our surname),
Mia/Mya and Millie (surname issue again)

I need help!!

badguider Wed 20-Mar-13 15:45:19

A good friend has just named an Isla. It's a lovely name.
I like Iona and Ailsa too and kind of like Skye but DH won't have any sort of Island type name... no idea why but he's adamant.

patchesmcp Wed 20-Mar-13 15:49:50

I'm with you OP, I just don't seem to like.any girl's names. Boy's names are fine but no idea for a girl and we only have a short while to go.

Whilst we don't know the sex, I'm convinced it's a girl which makes it worse!

EverythingIsTicketyBoo Wed 20-Mar-13 16:11:54

Oh I loved Skye but DH didn't like it at all sad might cry just after giving birth and say it's the only possible name, see if he changes his mind

IroningBoredDaily Thu 21-Mar-13 07:03:53

Love Rhona, but prefer the Ronagh spelling (as I know a very gorgeous person wih this name!)

williaminajetfighter Thu 21-Mar-13 07:35:54


eightytwenty Thu 21-Mar-13 07:44:08

Mhairi (Vari as an alternative to
Mairi though you can pronounce it both ways).



Littlemissexpecting Thu 21-Mar-13 08:38:48

What about Caitlin, Niamph (nieve) or Freya?

badguider Thu 21-Mar-13 09:08:46

I like mhairi but don't want to get into the 'mari' or 'vari' debate or have my daughter have to have it all the time. Also avoiding niamh for the same reason - we are not from a gaelic area and don't speak it so i don't feel comfortable chosing a gaelic name.

Freya is lovely but is already a baby name in close family.
Caitlin... hmm... interesting... as is Ishbel... but actually this thread is making me lean more and more towards Rhona smile

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