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Bejeena Tue 22-Jan-13 11:43:03

Hi everyone!

I am new to the community and am 10 weeks pregnant, so still early days.

Only the family know and are over the moon of course, this is my first baby and for my parents will be the first grandchild, my husband's sister and her husband have a child aleady. It is a very exciting time.

Since my husband's parents already have a grandchild we have assumed that our baby will also take same grandparents names (Gran & Grandpa) as their cousin so they are sorted.

I asked my mother what she would like to be called and she said Grandmummy. This is what I called my Dad's Mum.

I have told her no and I have given her the reason that I will always think of my own Grandmummy when I hear the name. But the other reason (I did not tell her this) is that I think it is a bit pretentious and stuck up. However with the reason I gave it also meant that I have to say no to her being called Nan because that is what I called her Mum (but to be honest I would be happy for her to be Nan)

She accepted it although I don't think she was very happy about it. Have I been really unfair?

To be honest as much as I loved my Grandmummy and she was an amazing woman (who I also firmly believe can never be replaced) I just really don't like the name. Being brought up in the working class town where I came from it was almost a bit embarassing to use Grandmummy and others kids used to tease me for it. This is something I do not want for my own child!

I am a bit concerned that I have gone to far, that it should be her right to choose but I really do not want it and quite frankly my husband is going to find it very wierd, it really just doesn't suit us.

What do others think and what names have you got for grandmothers? My suggestion is Nanna/Nana which I think she is ok with.

Thanks for the opinions - I'd love to hear what others think.

birdofthenorth Wed 23-Jan-13 18:43:34

I grew up with a Nan and a Grandma and likewise avoided repeating those for our folks. They are Nana and Granny instead.

I think Grandmummy is a bit ott, too, tbh. A bit Downton!

Lafaminute Wed 23-Jan-13 18:54:42

My childrens granny is Baba - as the eldest grandchild is half russian. I think Oma is lovely.

CitizenOscar Wed 23-Jan-13 23:35:33

Sorry, just to clarify, nothing wrong with Oma - I speak German & seems quite normal to me.

My comment was more about the fact that I don't see my grandad's gf as a grandmother figure (so doubt DS will) & Oma therefore seems inappropriate for her. But nothing wrong with it as a grandmotherly term.

NadiaWadia Thu 24-Jan-13 03:29:10

Never heard of Grandmummy before, but if your mother wants it, what's the problem? Surely it should be up to the grandparent to choose what they want to be called by their DGCs? After all, you get all the fun of choosing the baby's name, etc!

nooka Thu 24-Jan-13 04:14:15

I think it should be entirely the choice of the grandparent what they would like to be called. So I think that the OP is being very unreasonable. She will not be affected by the name nearly as much as her mother will. I don't really see why her SIL should have any great influence, it's not as if he is going to use the name is he, and if there were existing grandchildren he'd just have to lump it.

I've never heard the name 'Grandmummy' but I don't think it is pretentious - my grandparents were Grandmama and Grandpapa, and they were posh. I was surprised that my parents didn't go for the same names, but my mother struggled with becoming a grandmother and we never really found the right name for her (I would have liked to call her Granny, but she wasn't keen).

DessieLou Thu 24-Jan-13 06:08:46

My in laws are grandma & grandad, my mum is nanny jane. Hope you find something you're all comfortable with. :-)

newbielisa Thu 24-Jan-13 06:17:50

My Mum is Nana to my children, her Mum was Nana to me. It's funny how we're all so different I can't imagine not following the family "tradition" where to you it seems so wrong.

Totally agree that Grandmummy is pretentious and could possibly have me sniggering on a bad day.

thegreylady Thu 24-Jan-13 18:45:46

I am Grandma to dd's dc
Their dad's mum is Granny and dad's stepmum is Nana.Interestingly all three male grandparents are Grandad with Granny's dh being Grandad xxx[name] and my dh being xxx[description]Grandad.
I called my maternal dgm Mother as my mum had used that for her own dgm.My paternal dgm was Grandma.

pinkmagic1 Thu 24-Jan-13 18:56:26

Mine were both Nans. My dc call my mum nan, dh's mum is Jedda (arabic word for gran) and the also have a grandma Linda who is my dads long term partner.

mrssmooth Thu 24-Jan-13 18:56:48

My girls have a Granny (my mum, never any question that she'd be called anything other than this, as her mum was my "granny" too) and a Grandma (dh's mum). My gran (dad's mum) is still alive, but we don't have much contact, so they call her the same as I do "Gran xxx". [Gran xxx is called Nanna by my cousins but I've never been able to bring myself to call her that as it just sounds so ... silly ... when I say it (or I feel silly saying it) for some reason]. When my granny was alive, she was "Granny xxx". When (if) my turn comes, I will, most definately, without question, be "Granny"!!

exoticfruits Thu 24-Jan-13 18:59:02

I think it is just up to the grandmother-ask them and go with. It is up to the DC later on, but I can't see what it has to do with the parent.

eatyourveg Thu 24-Jan-13 19:26:21

I had a Granny and Grandad and a Nain followed by the name of the farm where they lived and Taid followed by the name of the farm. (Can't say what it was as it would out me to any Welsh mners). My dc have a Nain and Taid and Old Granny one side and Grandad and Nanny on the other. Hate hate hate with a vengeance the use of Nanny but thats what MIL called herself and dh's grandmother was called Nan so when they both used it, I didn't have a lot of choice. If the dc produce I am inclined to fashion myself as Nain or Granny

Frikadellen Thu 24-Jan-13 19:26:59

I think you are being unfair to your mother if you asked her then tell her no. You should have not asked then.

My children use the Danish Mormor and Morfar for my parents and Bedstefar for my step father
MIL and FIL Grandma and Grandad (though FIL was called Grandfar by dd1before He passed)

I dont actually care if any feel it is pretentious or over the top it is their names and what they wished to be called.

I have already told my children I do not want to be mormor/farmor they think I am odd laughs.

BeaLola Thu 24-Jan-13 19:43:49

I only had 1 Grandparent growing up as all others sadly deceased - we called her Nanny because all her other grandchildren did.

We adopted our DS last year - he is 5 & only grandchild. I said to my Dad when we found out we had been matched with him that he was finally going to be a Grandpa & he was thrilled - tbh about having a grandchild rather than title I was giving him - for some reason Grandpa suits my Dad. I asked my MIL what she wasnted to be called (don't love her , shes ok) & she said Grandma which was fine with me. I tell my DS about my lovely Mum who he knows is in heavan & we call her Nana forename .

Personally I don't love Grandmummy as a name but that said what I do love is that your Mum chose it & she sounds thrllled to be getting a grandchild & I would let her be it..........only wish my Mum was here to be a Grandparent. Your lovely child may end up calling her "Grand" or something else cute & that will be lovely too. I would(nearer the time) be ordering her a Bridghewater mug with Grandmummy customised on it


SuffolkNWhat Thu 24-Jan-13 20:07:46

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DefiniteMaybe Thu 24-Jan-13 20:12:04

My dc call my mum and mil Nanny <first name>. They call my nan Granny.

Bejeena Thu 24-Jan-13 21:37:14

Hmm I hadn't actually thought about the fact that I had actually asked her.

To be honest I think the reason I asked her was that I wanted to make it clear from the start that I don't want Grandmummy. I found it embarassing as a child and other people in school used to tease me for it, these are not nice memories.

I think if I am being unreasonable then I might have to accept it, but I don't want to give in and accept her wish for Grandmummy, I just don't like it.

To be honest I am not sure how my husband would react to it, I haven't had the guts to tell him because I think he is just going to laugh at the whole Grandmummy thing (we are both from very working class backgrounds) and I would be embarassed about it. The whole thing makes me want to cringe - and I never ever want my child to feel like this.

The way I see it is this, if my mother just accepts Nan, Nana, Gran, Granny or whatever else then when the baby comes she will have forgotten all about the wish to be Grandmummy. However if I accept Grandmummy I am going to be reminded every day of the shame that I felt over a woman that I loved so much and I just couldn't wish that on my child.

At the end of the day I think my Mum did seem to accept my veto of Grandmummy quite well, she didn't seem upset or feel like Nana or anything else was out of the question. I hope that it will work itself out without a big disagreement.

sleeplessinderbyshire Thu 24-Jan-13 21:44:24

We have a Granny and Grandad on my side and Nain and Taid on DH's (they are welsh)

VinegarDrinker Thu 24-Jan-13 21:54:04

Your little one may make their own name/s too... My Mum's Dad was always Papa because my older brother couldn't say Grandpa. Slightly bizarrely 30 years later my little boy also spontaneously calls his Grandpa Papa. He calls his Grandma Marmar (he's not yet 2). We let them choose what they wanted to be called. My Mum is Nana - her name for her own adored grandma - and my Dad is Grandy (because his name is Andy!).

exoticfruits Thu 24-Jan-13 21:59:23

Just go with it but shorten it to Gran. My mother was Granny but the DCs soon shortened it.

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