Advice please. How popular are popular boys names?(36 Posts)
We are expecting DC1 and have started to think about names. Quite a few of the names we like are fairly popular and high up the popularity rankings. Basically what I am wondering is in real life terms how popular are the popular names? This applies to boys names rather than girls as most of the girls names we like are more unusual.
I'm not looking for a name that has to be different or unusual but I would like to avoid DS being one of several in a class. Although I know that there is a chance this could happen even if you choose a very unusual name, I was wondering where in the rankings should you be looking (if it matters at all) to try and avoid this? Are there any particular names where this will always be the case?
Also, I suppose the other half of the question is even if DS does have a fairly popular name does this really matter? I know this is a pretty controversial subject but I don't want to reject a name we like on the grounds of popularity and regret it or vice versa.
Any thoughts or opinions would be very much appreciated.
Thank you! Well no one has mentioned any of the names we were thinking of so that's good. Will just have to have a think about which of the names we love and go from there.
My dd2 just started primary school and the duplicates for boys across a year of 66 pupils are Ben and Ethan. She herself has a really popular name (all my daughters do), she is the only one in the intake with that name. However there are 2 girls with the same name and its quite an unusual name. So its just luck I think.
I picked my daughters names solely on my favourite name at the time ( I didn't even check to see if their initials spelt out anything ) and have never regretted it.
"But hellokitty, in the work place you are competing across time for uniqueness of name. It will never happen unless you go well outside the norm.."
I don't think you need to go well outside the norm, I think you just need to go outside the top 100 or so. Yes, there will be lots of Pauls, Steves, Mikes and in 20 years there will be lots of Jacks, Harrys and Olivers.
But how many, for example, Dominics, Reubens, Magnuses, Clements are there? Or Tristans, Christians, Gregors? There are lots and lots of lovely normal names that aren't as overused as the top 50 ones.
I had my ds before MN was invented, and I didn't know anything about lists of popular names, but I'm guessing his name must have been in the top 3 most popular names of the year.
He's never been in a group / class / club / lesson without someone else who shares his name. Once he went on a Scout camp where there were 11 Scouts. 4 of them were girls, of the 7 boys, 4 of them had the same name.
How much this would bother you I don't know. It doesn't bother him. It tends to lead to a lot more nick names being used (to differentiate) - would that bother you ? I know it meant that when dds 1 and 2 were born, they were given traditional, but not "popular" names at the times of their births, and they both like the fact they very, very rarely come across other dcs with the same name as them.
What I'm saying is, the most popular ones are very popular, but, if it's your favourite name, then it doesn't need to be a really big problem.
But hellokitty, in the work place you are competing across time for uniqueness of name. It will never happen unless you go well outside the norm..
At my current work place there are three very senior Pauls. People just always use their last name as well when it would otherwise not be clear.
As someone already said there seem to be less boys' names than girls' names. So there will naturally be quite a lot of little boys with the top 10 names around - it's difficult to predict regional variations though (ds2's name is now top 20 I think but we know noone with the same name!)
Dh has a name that was very popular at the time he was born - there were always 3 or 4 of them in the class and hated it - he also hates the shortened version (and it's so common that people seem to shorten without asking)
Hence we tried to choose slightly more unusual but hopefully not too pretentious names for our boys.
I know lots of Sams, Bens and Maxs.
DS has a fairly common name but haven't come across another IRL yet (he's nearly 2) .
Go below top 20 if you want something kinda unique.
That said, Jasmine is out of top 20 for girls and it is easily the most common girl name around here in many years (with variant spellings).
You could always ask the registrar?
The longer version of DS2 name is in the top 10 or 20 I think.
At Nursery (about 30 children or so) he is the only boy with that name. At the childminders there are 3 of them! LOL (out of about 6 chilkdren).
So you can never tell.
DD on the other hand has a name that was about No. 150 when we named her. There were 2 in her Brownie pack of 20 girls.
Just go with what you like rather than worry about how popular a name is. They are popular for a reason - they are good names!
DS1 is in P1 and has a top 10 name. He says that there are no duplicate boys names in his class of 25. Altogether there are 75 children in the 3 P1 classes and I can't think of many children called the same thing.
I knew his name was common when we named him but he's named after my late grandfather.
In my DD's class (reception) boys names include:
There are plenty of other boys in the class who's names arent as popular but dont want to out myself these are the ones I think of as popular. Both my DCs have names that are fairly high up the list in popular names.
Some names are traditional and classic, there will always be some around yet tend not to date, eg, William, Luke, Elizabeth, etc.
Some names however are definitely "of the moment", think Millie, Molly, Alfie, Etc and reflect a particular era. Just like schoolchildren of the 70's all seemed to be Helen's, Jackies, Stephens and Davids.
IMO strong, traditional (often biblical) names carry children well into adulthood. They may not be particularly unique which can maybe smack of trying too hard,
Yet nor are they one of many many more of the same
I have a really common name. Never knew I was meant to care. So I guess it depends on the person. My son has a top ten name, even top 5 I think, and I've not met another with his name yet.
"Also, I suppose the other half of the question is even if DS does have a fairly popular name does this really matter?"
As long as he doesn't mind being known as little x, big x, and sharing his name with others as well as possibly having a hard time differentiating his name for business purposes. Imagine you are Harry Jones or Jack Smith and how on earth people will know WHICH Harry of Jack someone means. Also, consider things like email, website etc - all easier when you don't share a name with thousands others.
You know, I think we sometimes forget WHY we name a person or thing!
For girls, the range was 5,034 to 3,464. There is a wider range of girls' names, I think.
To put it in perspective, Harry, 2011's most popular name, had only 7,500 called it; William, number 10, had 4,632.
As soon as I pick a name, boys or girls it seems to go top ten, my eldest's name is a variation on a name that was extremely popular 13 years ago so she gets called that [grrr]
My second child had never met another of her name before in 11 years until we moved to Oz and now they are 10 a penny.
You've got to choose a name you love and that suits the surname and baby and then don't ever think about it again IMO.
I would try and avoid the top 10 at least, preferably the top 20 unless it was a name that I absolutely loved. I like loads of boys names so it wouldn't be a problem for me, I could have a problem with girls though (Isobel is one of my favourites, but crossed off due to popularity).
I think it would bother me if they ended up being one of 3/4/5/ children with the same name at school. I think it's a bit like when you turn up at a party in the same dress as someone else, just takes the shine off it a bit. Plus a name is used to identify someone, which it won't if half the class have the same name.
There are days when it seems as if fully 25% of the boys round here are called Max. Getting a fair bit of competition from Oliver, Jake and a whole lot of Henry going on.
My son has a reasonably uncommon name - we moved and for a particular geographical reason it is actually a lot more common here, albeit that his is a more unusual gaelic spelling - there is even a roundabout with the same name
and another with my eldests name too
Eldest has a much more common name but we have only come across one other and that was in a Judo class so not very important.
In your circumstance, I'd just go with a name you love.
There are 3 boys called Noah in DD's nursery class. I am not sure if it is really popular or if there is just an element of luck which results of clusters of semi-popular names.
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