I have one DS at pre-school. I am expecting DS2. DH and I have a favourite name picked out for DS2, but there are two boys at DS's pre-school (out of approx. 15 boys) with the same name; one is in his circle of friends, one not. I am quite friendly with both of their mums. Does it matter that we have chosen the same name? Am I (yet again!) overthinking this?
It's not a hugely popular name statistically btw, about 60-70 on the top 100 list.
Don't worry about it. Chances are you will move / they will move / they will go to a different school / you won't stay in their circle of friends etc.
When I was pregnant with DS2, two women I knew a bit were pregnant at the same time. Turns out we were all planning on using the same name (although we didn't discuss it.) I gave birth first and used the name. They felt bad using the same name and went for their second choices instead. Six months later I moved house and never saw them again.... They should have stuck with their first choice!
The other mums may be flattered.. My son has an increasingly popular name although when he was born 2 years ago I only knew one aged 18. He goes to a play group with my mum and a lady there said she was thinking of using DS's name for her new son and would I mind?! Of course I don't mind and it's flattering as she has been around DS for a while now and he obviously hasn't put her off the name!
'quite friendly' suggests you aren't especially close and therefore same name isn't too much of an issue - 'best mates, relatives, godparents' is different as suggests you will see a lot of each other and it will cause confusion; and potential upset with other family.
I probably wouldn't do it as i'd like my child to have a less popular name. But thats just us
It would bother me I must say. I disagree with previous poster, unless you are in a very mobile area this cohort odd kids will grow up together and will for ever be tom a, tom b and tom c. Always having your initial is a pain. Unless you are going till use an un popular nick name don't do it