Being too popular does bother me. I used to work in education, and often had 3 or 4 teenagers in a class with the same name as each other. I would prefer something more unusual to be honest. The 3 names above are not a short list. I don't HAVE a short list - that is the problem! I have made a note of names as I have heard them, so have a list of 'ideas'. That list is:
Leila (rose) Lyla (grace) Rosa (belle) Matilda (Tilly) Rose Tabitha Middle name - rae Lara Thalia rose Violet Clementine Flora Arya Rain for middle Thea Caiteline Evelyn Rose Aluna Zélie Liliana Theodora Cora Iris
Eleanor is such a great name, sounds beautiful, looks beautiful, feminine, strong. Think Eleanor of Aquitane - what a woman! I agree with LeMousequetaire.
And yes, I do have an Eleanor. She's 4 and fantastic, fun, clever, spikey, energetic, thoughtful, kind and very, very loving.
We have never shortened it to Ellie, we don't intend to, no-one else ever has either. She might decide to as she gets older, that's up to her. Name shortening and nn's can happen with any name, our view is it's the child's name and up to them.
Though incidentally I have a a 'classic' name that has several obvious nn's and never in my life have I ever been called any of them - because I don't like them and have never encouraged it.
That said I think you have great tase in names generally and love Iris and Evelyn too. We can't use Iris, it doesn't go with our surname and I'm disappointed because it's also a family name. Evelyn is DD2s middle name.
From your longer list of ideas I love; Tabitha, Thea, Thalia, Matilda and Violet -all of which have been on our shortlists and one of which is DD2s first name.
Not wishing to confuse you further but as we seem to share very similar taste, the girls names on our shortlist for DC3 due imminently are; Eliza, Esme, Ivy, Harriet. Love but can't use; Meredith, Verity, Ursula, Rosalind.